Consciously Co-Creating Dialog Systems

Want to consciously co-create connection to focus on what you want to contribute to life and be known, not for your stuckness in painful & violent conflicts, but instead your contributions to empathy, peacemaking, dialog, compassionate justice, mercy, forgiveness, & nonviolence?

About Our Work:

May Beloved Divine Energy be with you always in ALL ways and may you always be with Beloved Divine Energy! 

Learning Events

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We work widely with marginalized & intentional communities, universities, private clients, government institutions, schools, jails, law enforcement agencies, & yoga studios. Feel free to contact us to check our availability to design and facilitate a class or event in your community or organization. Some of the topics of courses and events we facilitate include:

  • Conscious Servant Leadership & Group Facilitation
  • Conflict Transformation & Conflict Resolution
  • Collaborative Communication
  • Efficient Communication
  • Less Violent Communication
  • Nonviolent Communication
  • Compassionate Communication
  • Collaborative Communication
  • Street Wise Communication
  • Self-Care Skills
  • Inner Mediation
  • Holistic Decision Making
  • Anger Transformation
  • Restorative Circle Hosting  
  • Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems
  • Ecovillage & Sustainable Community Design
  • Integral Life Practice & Integral Theory
  • Transforming Sexism, Racism, & Classism
  • Unity in Diversity
  • Wellness, Holistic Health, Chinese Medicine, & Ayurveda
  • Mindfulness Stress Reduction
  • Sound Alchemy Healing
  • Community Building
  • Transformational & Pedagogy Co-Learning
  • Sustainable Living, Permaculture, & Whole Systems Design
  • Conscious System Transformation
  • Offering & Receiving Conscious Feedback

Please contact us if you would like to Consciously Co-Create a learning event. 

Past Highlight Offerings:

May all beings be peaceful, happy, & free in all the worlds!

Our Conscious Co-Creation Community Dialogic Systems Collaborations

Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker has had the lucky privilege and honor of collaborating on spreading awareness and serving his experience of Indigenous Wisdom Protection, Conflict Transformation, Gender Justice, Racial Justice, Class Justice, Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness Stress Reduction, Unity in Diversity, Spiral Dynamics Integral, Inclusion, Restorative Practices, Permaculture Principles, Interfaith Harmony, Awakening The Dreamer Principles, Restorative Circles, Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems, and co-learning events worldwide since 2007. Here are some of the groups we have been really lucky to collaborate with:

New Mexico (which includes 18 Indigenous Pueblos, various Bands of Apache and Dine'Tah Lands), Turtle Island-North America:
  1. ReGeneration Festival, Taos
  2. Guardians of Taos Water
  3. Taos County Coordinated Community Response Team
  4. Taos County Sheriff, Taos
  5. 911 Taos Central Communications, Taos
  6. New Mexico State Police, Taos
  7. New Mexico Law Enforcement Academy, Santa Fe
  8. Taos Police Department
  9. Sustainable Global Leadership Alliance, Sandia Park
  10. Rivers and Birds, Arroyo Eco
  11. Taos Peace House, Taos
  12. Nonviolence Works Inc., Taos
  13. Taos High School, Taos
  14. Hummingbird Living School, Cleveland
  15. Mora Public Schools, Mora County
  16. Center for Nonviolent Communication, Albuquerque
  17. El Gamal: Middle Eastern Restaurant, Taos
  18. Bus The Change: A Wake Up Tour, Cleveland
  19. Children First New Mexico, Santa Fe
  20. Center for Spiritual Living, Santa Fe
  21. Calm Waters Mediation, Santa Fe
  22. Chrysalis High School, Taos
  23. PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians & Gays), Taos
  24. Lama Foundation, San Cristobal
  25. Hanuman Temple Devotees, Taos
  26. New Mexico Network for NVC, Albuquerque
  27. Taos Waldorf School, Taos
  28. Taos Juvenile Justice Board, Taos County
  29. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, San Cristobal
  30. Northern New Mexico Midwifery Center, Taos
  31. Santa Fe Recovery Center, Santa Fe
  32. The Friendship Club, Santa Fe
  33. Shree Yoga Taos, Taos
  34. Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT 2007, Albuquerque
  35. Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT 2010, Albuquerque
  36. Enos Garcia Elementary School, Taos
  37. Arroyos Del Norte Elementary School, Arroyo Seco
  38. Moreno Valley High School, Angel Fire
  39. Penasco Elementary School, Penasco
  40. Earth Garden Tea and Chi NVC Practice Group, Taos
  41. Qi Gong Academy, Taos
  42. Santa Fe Youth Development Center, Santa Fe
  43. Amma Center of New Mexico Devotees, Santa Fe
  44. Santa Fe Public Library, Santa Fe

Bharat Mata - India
  1. Auroville Joy Living and Learning Center, Tamil Nadu
  2. Amrita University, Kollam, Kerala
  3. Thamarai Community Center, Edayanchavadi, Tamil Nadu
  4. Phyang Government School, Phyang, Ladakh, Jammu & Kashmir
  5. Living Routes Ecovillage Study Abroad, Auroville, Tamil Nadu
  6. PRADHAN, New Delhi
  7. New Delhi NVC Practice Group
  8. 2011 India NVC Convention, Pondicherri
  9. Human Harmonizer Project, Khandamal & Berhampur, Orissa
  10. Family Wellness Center, New Delhi
  11. New Delhi Restorative Circles Practice Group
  12. Solidarity for Developing Communities, Orissa
  13. American Embassy School, New Delhi
  14. Shanyer Khampa, Leh, Ladhak, Jammu & Kashmir
  15. Sādhana Forest Ecovillage, Koot Road Village, Auroville, Tamil Nadu
  16. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, Nagpur
  17. Sunil Sharma's Hindi Language School, Dharamkhot, Himachal Pradesh
  18. Amrita Self-Reliant Villages, Amritapuri, Kerala, India
  19. Amritapuri Ashram NVC & RC Practice Groups, Parayakadavu, Kerala, India

Maui Ohana, Hawaii, South Pacific
  1. Mediation Dojo, Hai'ku
  2. Temple of Peace, Hai'ku
  3. CNVC New Future Process Conflict Transformation System, Hai'ku
  4. 2016 Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT USA-Japanese Restorative System Building Dialogs, Hai'ku and Door of Faith Rd., Hu'elo
  5. Sufi Universal Worship, Door of Faith Rd., Hu'elo

Thailand, Asia
  1. Panya Permaculture Project, Si Khiu, Korat

Brasil, South America
  1. Restorative Circles, Rio De Janierio
  2. Restorative Systems, Rio De Janiero
  3. Dialogic Systems Design, Rio De Ja iero
  4. Restorative Circles Apprenticeship, Rio De Janiero

Canada, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Co-Creating Compassionate Community NVC Camp, Salt Spring, British Columbia

California, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Karuk Tribe Cultural Biology Team, Forks of Salmon
  2. Yurok Tribe, Jack Norton School, Weitchipec
  3. US Military Veterans Association Hospital, Los Angeles
  4. US Military Women's Veterans Fair, Concord
  5. US Military Veterans North Bay Stand Down Camp, Dixon
  6. Natomas Middle School, Sacramento
  7. The Inner Path, Nevada City
  8. Golden Mandala, Nevada City
  9. Coaching for Social Change, Sacramento
  10. Living Mandala, Bay Area
  11. AmeriCorps Watershed Stewards Project, Fortuna
  12. Emergency Empathy Responders at Occupy Oakland
  13. Pachamama Alliance, San Francisco
  14. Generation Waking Up, Oakland
  15. Sunlight of the Spirit, Sacramento
  16. BayNVC Safer Communities Project, North Bay
  17. The Empathy Tent, Oakland
  18. Center for Building a Culture of Empathy, Berkley
  19. Fairfield Police, Solano County
  20. Casa De Paz, Oakland
  21. Canticle Farms, Oakland
  22. Santa Rita Prison, Alameda County
  23. MA Center, San Ramon
  24. BayNVC North American Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program, North Bay
  25. The Shift Network, North Bay
  26. Center for Sacred Studies, Forestville
  27. 2011 NVC and Diversity Retreat, Sonoma County
  28. San Quentin State Prison, Marin County
  29. Oakland City Council, Oakland
  30. Santa Rosa Violence Prevention Program, Santa Rosa
  31. Santa Rosa Gang Task Force Police, Santa Rosa
  32. Shirdi Sai Baba Hindu Temple, Fremont
  33. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, Fremont
  34. Shadow Yoga, Santa Rosa
  35. Natomas High School, Sacramento
  36. ManKind Project New Warriors, Tiburon
  37. Sonoma County Jail, Santa Rosa
  38. Jupiter Moon Art Studio, Sebastobol
  39. Restorative Justice Training Institute, Richmond
  40. Yuba College Public Safety Program, Yuba City
  41. Yuba College Veterans Support Services, Yuba City
  42. Oakland Peace Center, Oakland, CA
  43. Madukar Daya Das Baba's Ayurveda Studio, Sacramento, CA
  44. Ohio House Sober Living Network, Costa Mesa, CA
  45. Buckeye Recovery Network, Huntington Beach, CA
  46. Lalita Chandika Mandir, Yuba City, CA

Pacific Northwest Turtle Island-North America
  1. NVC Family Camp, Vashon Island, WA
  2. Cascadia Workshops, Maple Falls, WA
  3. Find Flow, Nomadic, Seattle, WA & Portland, OR
  4. Bainbridge Island Restorative Circles, WA
  5. Strength of Connection, Bainbridge, WA
  6. Chuck Estin Permaculture, Bainbridge, WA
  7. Space Transform Feng Shui, Seattle, WA

Colorado, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Shambhala Mountain Center, Red Feather Lakes
  2. Rocky Mountain Peace and Justice Center, Boulder
  3. Wild Land Restoration Alliance, Boulder
  4. University of Colorado at Boulder Environmental Center
  5. Colorado Ecospiritual Center, Colorado Springs

Utah, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Parliament of World Religions, Salt Lake City

Tennessee, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Memphis City School Teachers

North East, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Berkshire Farm & Services for Youth, Canaan, NY
  2. Abode of the Message, New Lebanon, NY
  3. Lion Heart Foundation, Canaan, NY & Boston, MA
  4. Kripalu Yoga Center, Great Barrington, MA

Washington District of Columbia, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Power Shift 2011

Missouri, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Possibility Alliance, La Plata
  2. Superhero's Headquarters, La Plata

Georgia, Turtle Island-North America
  1. Open Door Community, Atlanta

Switzerland, Europe
  1. Global Alliance of Ministries and Infrastructures of Peace Summit 2013, Geneva UN

May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

Contact Info

Contact Order of Preference:

0. In-Person heart to heart Connection 

1. Office Phone: +1.530.713.3820 

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Clayton Barker


Empathy Stories is filled with great tales of living empathy from over 30 empathy experts, including one about living the co-creating connection principles and the Yoga of Nonviolent Communication to survive being held up at gun point on the way to volunteering at a Lakota Sun Dance in Northern New Mexico.

What is Conscious Co-Creation?

According to the Hummingbird Living School, Conscious Co-Creation is "defined in “The Co-Creator’s Handbook”, coauthored by Carolyn Anderson and Katharine Roske, as “Co-participating consciously with the laws or patterns of the Creator; conscious alignment with the essence of others and with nature; Self aligning with Self, vertically and horizontally.” A conscious co-creator is one who surrenders and aligns their will with the intention of Creation, the universal mind, the designing intelligence, Spirit; one who shares their gifts and actualizes their dreams in synergistic play with other co-creators to bring forth a new world."

The Co-Creator’s Agreements

Be Mindful
My intent is to be myself, to be authentic, and to be fully present.

Realize our Potential
My commitment is to realize my full potential and support others in doing the same.

Follow my Guidance
I agree to attune with spirit and follow the calling of my soul on behalf of the well-being of the whole.

Communicate with Integrity
I agree to tell my truth with compassion for myself and others.

Act with Integrity
I agree to keep my agreements and will do my best to follow my heart in making commitments.

Deep Listening
I agree to listen respectfully to the communication of others and tune into their deepest meaning.

Honor One Another
I agree to honor each person’s process, acknowledging that everyone, including myself, is making the best possible choice or decision we are capable of in that moment.

Appreciate Our Contributions
I agree to take responsibility for asking for and receiving acknowledgments and for acknowledging others.

Honor Our Differences
I agree to come from a sense of cooperation and caring in my interactions with others, and from an understanding that objectives are often the same even though methods for achieving them may differ. I honor the diversity of all life.

Take Responsibility
I agree to take responsibility for my creations, my reactions, my experience and my relationships.

Maintain Resonance
I agree to take the time to establish rapport and then to re-connect with anyone with whom I feel out of harmony as soon as it may be in the flow.

Resolve Problems Constructively
I agree to take problems, complaints and upsets to the person(s) with whom I can resolve them at the earliest opportunity. I agree not to criticize or complain to someone who cannot do something about my complaint, and I will redirect others to do the same.

Go for Excellence
I agree to support others and to be supported in participating at the highest level of excellence.

Learn from Experience
I agree to do my best to learn from my experiences.

Accept Imperfections
I intend to em brace and accept the imperfections of myself and others.

Be a Servant-Leader
I agree to foster an environment of genuine collaboration in which all people, including myself, feel empowered to express our individual and collective potential.

Service to Others
I a m willing to open my heart, still my mind and be in compassionate service to all life.

Re-evaluate My Commitment
I agree to choose and re-choose to participate in Co-Creating Connection. It is my choice.

Lighten UP!
I agree to create joy in my relationships, my work and my life.

These agreements are inspired by the The Co-Creator’s Handbook, published and copyrighted by Global Family. They have been adapted from The Geneva Group Agreement from Boulder, CO. We invite you to use them as a basis for co-creating agreements that are relevant for your group or organization

To work with Clayton to co-create a practice group and learning event and schedule a FREE 30 Min Co-Creating Connection Session, please contact. Thanks!

May all beings be peaceful, happy, and free in all the worlds!

What are Restorative Practices?

Restorative Practices are a living and organic community dialog and spiritual conversation process that aim to restore connection, power sharing, consciously co-create clarity and mutual understanding, improve and repair relationships between people and communities to both prevent harm and heal through empathy and honesty after harm has occurred. 

The purpose of Restorative Practices are to build healthy communities, increase social capital, decrease crime and life-alienating and violent behavior, repair harm and restore broken relationships. They are considered part of the Restorative Justice Movement which builds collaborative and dialog within traditional protective and punitive use of force justice systems (such as schools, courts, police, military, mental hospitals, etc) which are held and nested within the Laws of Mother Nature justice system, the laws of karma (you get what you do), and the Universal Justice System of the Milky Way Galaxy and the Planetary Justice Systems.

Restorative Practices are both ancient and newly emerging. 

Examples of Restorative Practices from Native America include Dine' Hogan Dialogs, Pomo Round Dances, Port Sklallam Cedar Sweat Lodges, Pow Wows, Lakota Inipi Sweat Lodge, Homblecha, and Sun Dance Ceremonies and Talking Stick Circles where people meet to honor Mother Earth and pray for community balance, peace, harmony, healing, and beauty, and discuss harms that need prayer, love, and action. 

There are over 760 Native American tribes in the border engulfing these Souls and the traditional Mother Earth stewardship lands they have served since time immemorial, called the United States of America. All of these tribes each have their own version of dialog and circle based Restorative Practices. Examples of Restorative Practices from India are Self Help Groups & Self Reliant Groups.

Examples of newly emerging Restorative Practices in the modern Restorative Justice Movement are... 

Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation

There are over 8 Billion religions on this planet and each Universal Human Being has their own unique formula to realizing the Divine in their own unique way. I don't have to convert anyone to my religion except my own ego to my own Soul. The practice of honing Interfaith Harmony Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation encourages you to draw your own conclusions, while continuously allowing them to be re-drawn. These 10 Evolving Questions can be lights on this path to presence with each other in our Self.

The following descriptions are not comprehensive—but they will give you enough to start testing out how you can deepen your presence both inside and outside of Interfaith Harmony Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation. The Questions are not rules; they are inquiries learnt from direct experience. They are not answers; they are questions to be lived. They are not static; they are evolving as we evolve. From direct experience, living these questions does produce extraordinary measurable results.

These Questions are not new. They are as ancient as the ocean of blissful compassion in our heart light:

-1. Are we willing to Become Instruments of Peace?

-0. Are we cultivating Self-Connection to Love?

1. Are we taking Action (non-linear & linear) to serve Life?

2. Are we consciously co-creating inner and outer Spaces for dialog?

3. Are we hosting & Facilitating Dialog?

4. Have we heard about dialog through the Grapevine and are we Getting the Word About Peace Dialog Out?

5. Are we consciously co-creating omni-partial Access to dialog?

6. Are we Celebrating our Dialog Victories?

7. Are we Removing Blocks to Dialogic Action?

8. Are we Repeatedly re-asking our selves these questions, non-linearly and linearly to integrate Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine within and without?

Deeper Experiential Commentary Inquiry into these 10 Questions of Community Dialog Systems Conscious Co-Creation:

-1. Become an Instrument of Peace: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a prayer and a willingness to become an instrument of peace?

  • What is working well in my Self?
  • What is NOT working well in my Self?
  • What is my clear vision for how I transform and embrace my Self? What is my clear vision for a strong and sustained interpersonal, intrapersonal, and systemic support system?

0. Self Connection to Love: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create an intention to be a strong, maintained, and eternally sustained connection to one's Self and ❤️ LOVE? Are we willing to learn the principles of empathy and nonviolence from those honing these practices?

1. Action: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create dialog with the identified sources of Mother Nature, the 5 Elements, plants, animals, birds, insects, life, water and people in the community about what works well to transform painful and violent conflict into beauty, balance, peace, harmony, compassion, and unity in diversity? Are we willing to move towards transforming rules into agreements and use Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialog Practices as a way to embrace conflict to restore peace, beauty, balance, rhythm, self discipline, harmony, & love?

  • What is working well in our community?
  • What is NOT working well in our community?
  • What is our clear vision for how our community could be?

2. Space: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create refuges, sanctuaries, and safe spaces to perform spiritual practices and tell the truth in Restorative Dialogic Practices that have inclusive omni-partial awareness of historical contexts, gender balance, racial and ethnic honoring with respect dynamics, inclusive of all classes, respectful of all ages, mindful of all disability, a interfaith and inner faith and intrafaith agnostic, atheist, spiritual and religious outlook, and omni-partial respect of all LGTBQI2SAA, hetero-cis-normative, and celibate orientations, a minimal to zero ecological footprint, harmonious sound vibration levels, and a basic level of safety and comfort for and with the participants of the community?

3. Host + Facilitate: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create co-learning based on a blend of knowledge honed from direct experience and intellectual information about the unity in diversity of the Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices offered in the community?

4. Grapevine: Get The Word Out... Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a means for the experiential Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices knowledge and intellectual information to be lived and shared widely within the community?

5. Access: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a means for the Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices to be lived and initiated in the community scale that make them as omni-partial as the scale of inclusion of the community agreements and capacity of time, energy, and resources will allow?

6. Celebrate: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create gratitude, acknowledgment, celebrations, and appreciations of positive life-serving action to consciously co-create interdependence in the community?

7. Remove Blocks to Action: Are we willing to build a massive and strong holistic and Spiritual interpersonal, intrapersonal, and systemic support system and seek out healing, empathy, spiritual training, recovery, and coaching to remove any blocks to us taking efficient action to manifest and generate Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation to serve local and world peace? Are we willing to to avoid the punitive use of force and only use the Protecive use of force as a last effort to enrich life, if offering food, shelter, clothing, water, empathy, understanding, and space does not transform personal and community problems and someone physically threatens us?

8. Repeat: Non-Linearly: Is our action cyclic like weather, tides, seasons, life stages? Is action natural? Does it occur like the spiral in our thumb print, the galaxies, the water in a river Eddy, the movement of a cyclone and hurricane, and the seeds, growth, decay and re-pollination of blue corn, basmati rice, and redwoods? Is Action eternal?  Do we really do anything? Does Mother Nature happen through us and do we originate from Her and return to Her?

***Non-Possessiveness of Credit from Clayton Stewart Waidler Barker: All these questions came from the Universe and from inspiration sourced from the Soul of Mother Nature, Weyakpa Najin Win, Tateh Uha Omani, White Buffalo Calf Woman, Amma, Shree Maa, Avadhuta Dattatreya, Neem Karoli Baba, & Dominic Barter, in the life experiences of local and worldwide Interfaith Harmony Pilgrimage in Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems, gifted by the Mother Earth. Beloved Divine Energy Gets ALL the Credit! She is the doer!

Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems Apprenticeship

This offering is inspired by my own manifestation and generation of measurable results and the Restorative Systems Apprenticeship with my Indigenous Scottish Gaelic Elder, Dominic Barter. It is inspired by all these Community Dialog System Co-Creation collaborations in North America, Asia, and Europe participating in Restorative Dialogs and Restorative Practices.

Agreements to Be in This Apprenticeship: 

1) You understand I am a raggedy imperfect Universal Human Being doing the best I can to serve life.

2) You agree that we will consciously co-create a Community Dialog Systems based on living these 10 Questions.

3) You agree to read The Surprising Purpose of Anger at least 1 time if not up to 16 times in 1 year as I have to become self-responsible for feeling and valuing.

4) You agree to take your own inventory using the Systems self reflection practices and give me positive constructive feedback to grow and learn.

6) I welcome you to utilize my full experience, tap into my heart light, and test out my knowledge of Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems with subtle awareness that I also have survived being sexually assaulted before and I have survived having been physically beaten and physically threatened at least 20 times in my life. Because I don't work well and successfully on Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog System when under duress, threat, pressure, and blame, I welcome you to contribute to my well being with empathy & compassionate honesty as I seek to contribute to you with empathy & compassionate honesty.

If this apprenticeship interests you and you are willing to agree to co-create these agreements, please contact me.

May you be alert, stay safe, and stay awake and may you be protected with pure love, pure light, and pure knowledge.

With harmony, blessings, respect, and peaceful wishes for 1 day on Earth where no one is admitted to the hospital due to violence, all hostilities ceasing, and everyone's values honored and respected.

Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker

May all beings be peaceful and happy in all the worlds!


"To define your Self is to confine your Self." -Mooji

Clayton Stewart-Waidler Barker

Self-Directed Roles That Clayton Gets to Play...

Traumatized Angry Athlete Transformed into a Positive Compassionate Sober Community Role Model
Clayton Barker grew up with very loving parents, with a Mother who has been a Domestic Violence Therapist, Suicide Prevention therapist and a Hospice Bereavement Counselor who is a Christian Jewish Tibetan Buddhist Democrat from a poor US Military Family and a Republican Father from a wealthy CEO/Military Family who avoided the Vietnam war and became a Doctor with the US Public Health Service, VA System, Low income Indigenous and Migrant Farm Worker Health Clinics, Family Medicine and Obstetric community Hospitals, Private Family Medicine, and Kaiser Permanente. Clayton has had two grandfathers and five cousins working in the US Military who fought in WW2, Korea, Vietnam, Afghanistan, Iraq, who have occupied military bases around the world, with 5+ relatives who have been very successful CEO's and Business executives in Health Care, Public Relations, and the Hollywood TV and Film Industry. In 1984, Clayton's dear Aunt committed suicide when he was 2 years old while his Mom was pregnant with his dearly beloved sister, Hannah, who is a Business Executive, Sailor, Bicycle enthusiast, and Great mom. His aunt's suicide forever changed the course of his life and brought up a lot of anger and depression for him that he has needed to heal, driving him down the path of finding Nonviolent Communication, Spiritual Truth, and Intentional Community building. After being affected by that early war and suicide trauma, Clayton got heavily involved in Soccer, Baseball, Hockey, Football, and Snow Boarding to relieve stress but also ended up making some unwise decisions to watch 16 hours of garbage TV/movies/violent video games a day and take alcohol and drugs to deal with the family war and suicide trauma, hanging out with gang bangers, objectifying womanizers, drug dealers, and wild frat boys in high school and the first 2 years of his 5 year college career. After seeing that 16 hours a day of garbage TV/movies/violent video games and those partying communities did not shift his depression or lead to sustainable health and joy, Clayton started sobering up and got deeply into Tibetan and Zen Buddhism, climbing many mountains, as well as diving into Wilderness Protection, Wild Land Restoration, Gardening, Watershed Protection, Environmental Stewardship, and the American Indian Movements to channel the Wounded Healer Warrior energy into serving the restoration of respect for Mother Nature, Dharma, and intentional community in the United States engulfing 760 Sovereign Indigenous Native American Tribes.  Clayton has been sober and free from drugs since 2003, sober and free from marijuana since 2007, sober and free of cigarettes since 2010, sober and free from alcohol since 2010, celibate since 2010, and has not even eaten at a restaurant since 2012. Since the sobering up process began, Clayton received 16+ years of formal meditation training in Asia and North America and is now a positive sobering awakening role model of healing transformation and reference for the Divine Mother energy with both younger and Elder generations, including his two nieces, Elizabeth and Audrey.

Infinite Soul in a Indigenous European-American Male Body

Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker (a name that literally means "The Servant of The Town of Clay & Willow Who Cries Out") works like the Beloved Divine Energy that blows the wind through blades of grass and the Beloved Divine Energy inside the source of a lightning strike in a thunderstorm in the sky, both locally and across North America, Asia, India, and The South Pacific as a Soulful Indigenous European-Turtle Islander with Irish Celtic, Scottish Gaelic/Celtic, Viking, Druid, Saxon, Jewish, Germanic and Swiss Alp Tribal roots. He has a very diverse global amily which has through direct experience taught him about transforming racism into Unity in Diversity. On his Maternal side, Clayton has blood relatives who are Pakistani-American, Korean-American, Mexican-American, Egyptian-American, Australian-American. And on his Paternal side, he has blood relatives who are Australian-American and English-American. He channels the production of measurable results of Co-Creating Connection due only to the grace of our holy Mother Earth & the Universe. Clayton Barker has three major professions:  1) Integrative CNA/EMT/Indigenous Medicine Health Care Practitioner, 2) Co-Creating Connection Consultant, Coach, & Trainer, & 3) Scholar-Author-Poet): 1 job for cleaning up past action, 1 job for cleaning up present action, and 1 job for cleaning up future action.

Mother Earth Ally with All Human Beings Beyond Class, Race, & Gender...

As a Self in a piece of Universal dust, Clayton has both extensive academic & community based artesanal apprenticeship training with a Bachelor's of Arts in Environmental Studies from the University of Colorado at Boulder with a Minor in Geography and is trained in Indigenous Wisdom and Indigenous Rights by The Thirteen Indigenous Grandmothers, Rhoda Concha from Taos Pueblo, Lyla June from Dine' Tah/Scadanavia/The Cheyenne and Taos ReGeneration Festival, Wyakpa Najin Win from the Five Fingered Tribe of Humanity and Dine' Tah, April Madragon from the Shoshone, Commanche, & Mextizo Tribes, Louie Hena from Tesgueh Pueblo and The Indigenous Seed Sovereignty Alliance, Dr. Larry Emerson from Hog Back in Dine' Tah, Goodshield Aguilar from The Lakota, Arvol Looking Horse from The Lakota, Walking Thunder from Dine' Tah, Thomas Denapaw Delgado from The Inuit/Lakota/Taos Pueblo, and Lynne Twist from the Pachamama Alliance.  

Water Protector & Watershed Steward

Clayton has been a protector of Water, serving Watershed Education with both Indigenous and Modern communities, working on Watershed Restoration projects in Colorado, Karuk, Yurok, Karuk, Wappo, Yuba River, & Pomo country in California, Taos County, Mora County, and Santa Fe County in New Mexico, Dine' Tah in Arizona, Maui, and serving Watershed Restoration in a village Self-Reliance project working in 29 states in India. He has taught children Outdoor Watershed Education in North America and India.

Racial Stereotype Transformer - Soul Clarifier

Clayton is trained in transforming his own and structural white racism into celebrating unity in diversity by all of his Indigenous Elders including Mooji, Itzel Damaris Berrio Hayward of Attuned Living, Rocky Flats Nuclear Weapons Facility Whistle Blower Adrienne Anderson of the CU-Boulder Environmental Justice Program, Dr. Roxanne Manning of The Nonviolent Leadership Retreat for Social Justice, Fania Davis of Restorative Justice for Oakland Youth, Renjitam Alfred from the Restorative Justice Training Institute, Marina Smerling of the Shameless Heart, Challenge Day, The International Center for Cultural Studies, Arvol Looking Horse of the Lakota, Russell Means and Kerry Dan of the The American Indian Movement, Dr. Ward Churchill of CU-Boulder Ethnic Studies Program, Pocho Salvador Chava Eliseo Sanchez Strawbridge of the Santa Rosa Violence Prevention Partnership/MECHA/United Farm Workers, Poncho Ramos Stierle of Casa De Paz, Lee Mun Wah of Stir Fry Seminars,  Paul Kivel of How White People Can Work for Racial Justice, Dr. Mikhail Lyubansky of Psychology Today and University of Illinois, Tod Kington of Shawnee Conflict Center, and Ammachi of Embracing the World, Amrita SeRVe, and Amrita University.

Nonviolence Community Organizer, Facilitator, Coach, Consultant, Trainer, & Peace Activist

Clayton has been practicing transforming his own anger and mental, verbal, and physical violence into Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since 2007, being first taught this language of the heart by a Choctaw-German Indigenous European-Native-Turtle Islander Medicine Woman in Chiapas, Mexico & is a graduate of the 2010/2011 BayNVC North American Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program. Clayton was personally trained by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg for 18 days and ongoingly by at least 40+ Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainers from the Center for Nonviolent Communication. As he learns the art of nonviolence, he collaborates in offering practice groups with over 137 organizations from around the world.

Conscious Co-Creation of Community Dialog System Designer

He apprentices and integrates principles of Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation with many dialog mentors around the world and also Dialogic Systems Design as well as Restorative Systems with Indigenous Scottish-Saxon-Brazilian Stewart Clan Restorative Justice & Social Systems Innovation Elder, Dominic Barter, since 2009 in Oakland, Seattle, Rochester, Atlanta, Urbana, from India on video conferencing, and in Geneva, Switzerland at the United Nations and Global Alliance of Ministries and Infrastructures of Peace. Clayton shares his experience of hosting Nonviolent Communication, Restorative Circles, Restorative Practices, and Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems Collaborations across cultures, communities, and sectors throughout the world.

Indigenous & Modern Community Health Integrator

Clayton plays with inner systems, intrapersonal, and social system cohesion innovation/ancient wisdom as a Initiated ManKind Project New Warrior, a Certified IAM 20 Meditation Instructor with Military Veterans, Youth Prisoners, and Elders by the CEO of Embracing The World, a Certified Hummingbird Community Apprentice & Ambassador, a Certified Awakening the Dreamer, Changing The Dream Facilitator by Pachamama Alliance, a Certified Nursing Assistant by North Bay CNA Training Program & The California Department of Health. He studied Ontological Life Coaching with Coaching for Social Change and The Academy of Coaching Excellence from 2012-2016. He is a graduate of Yuba College Public Safety Emergency Medical Technician Training Program, is a Certification Candidate for Emergency Medical Technician with National Registry of Emergency Medical Technicians, and looking at completing Registered Nursing college training programs by 2021. He has trained extensively in Indigenous Medicine, Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, Natural Organic Farming, a Variety of Hot/Cold Composting techniques, Amrita Waste Management, Black Belt Money Skills, Permaculture, Hogan Dialog, Spiral Dynamics Integral, Integral Life Practice & Theory, and facilitating Interfaith Earth, Fire, and Water Prayer Ceremonies.

Intentional Spiritual Community Creator, Sustainer, & Transformer

He trained in alternative evolutionary decision making and power sharing governance models such as Sociocracy with Shantigarbha and Integral Holocracy Governance with Karl Steyaert of Find Flow and the 8-Shields Governance Model with Myra Jacobs-Murphy of Sustainable Global Leadership Alliance and Concensus Decision Making with Laird Schaub from the Fellowship of Intentional Communities. He studied the Conscious Co-Creator's Agreements with Priestess Katherine Roske and Mindful Communication Agreements with Ralph Huber of the Hummingbird Living School and Spirial Dynamics Integral with Dr. Rich Ruster of the Center for the Human Dream. He studied Living in The Heart Meditation and Efficient Teamwork with Mark Courtman of Humming Bird Community.

Interfaith Harmonizer of 8+ Billion Religions On Earth

Clayton undergoes extensive inner faith and Interfaith harmony movement Spiritual training and Self study of Gaelic, Celtic, Saxon, Druid, Tuiton, Viking, Islam, Judaism, Japanese Rinzai Zen Buddhism, Japanese Soto Zen Buddhism, Vietnamese Zen Buddhism, Tibetan Vajrayana, Kagyu, & Nyigma Buddhism, Tibetan Bon, Shambhala Warrior Buddhism, Yoga, Himalayan Shaivism, Dine’ Hozho, Shakti Worship, Sanatana Dharma, Lakota Inipi, Sufi Universal Worship, Christianity, Presbyterianism, and Catholic prayer and meditation since age 0. He began performing Puja (worship) to Lord Buddha and Mother Nature at age 10 after his Mother gave him a Buddha statue and She initiated him into worship with Rinchen Gelek, a Tibetan Yogi. He has 16+ years of formal Meditation and Volunteer Service Training with many Enlightened Masters from all continents, including Native American Sages, Saints, and Holy People.

Writer, Singer, & Drummer

Clayton is a singer, song writer, drummer, and a infamously authentic, bold, and avid writer, poet, as well as a published author in a book called Empathy Stories, where he shares the tale of living NVC and Yoga to thrive and survive being held up at gun point on the way to volunteering at a Lakota Sun ☀️ Dance. He is working several book projects right now, including translation of the Restorative Circles process into Sanskrit.

Martial Artist, Community Protector, & Sexual Violence Transformer

As a shameless Man who has been sexually assaulted by a male attacker, Clayton now prevents sexual violence, rape, and child sexual abuse and to meet needs for community protection and personal safety, he trains in the protective use of force in mixed martial arts including Chi Gung, Kung Fu, Aikido, Nor Kal Self Defense, and Kalari Payattu. Clayton has never yet had to physically use his martial arts training on anyone and finds the practice of these Spiritual Warrior skills, a useful way to develop self-esteem, fight his own inner enemies, and get anger out alone in a healthy way in solitude. He does not even want to think about harming anyone in thought, word and deed and spends much time every day meditating, chanting prayers, and praying for world and inner peace.

May all be blessed with peace, eternal joy, liberation, pure light, pure knowledge, and pure love!


"Stories shared were very helpful, particularly when used as a reference point to apply the concepts being shared. The stories on their own (especially the one about being held at gun point) also served the purpose of establishing trust and credentials for the facilitator, and were very engaging (not boring every day examples) which made the event shared with brother especially unique. They did not feel like tangents, nor did they feel like gloating. There was a felt sense that brother cared about our intentions for coming being met, and he was doing what he could to guide the process in a way that also met his own need for efficiency, as well as navigating the waters of divine mother flow from participants. Overall, so much was given in such a short period of time, and the offering was a very prayerful and authentic one. The authenticity and connection to the topic expressed by brother was the biggest motivator and connection point that would keep this one returning to this type of work with this particular facilitator. It was felt as a heart offering, and one that was creditable and trust worthy. Gratitude for the experience, and looking forward to apply and deepening NVC in life and at work. May the fruits of the offering shared bring inner and outer peace to all." -Allison Star, participant in The Yoga of Nonviolent Communication Practice Group

Surprising Purpose of Anger Coaching

Contact us to book a session!

Clayton's bio


Suggested Sliding Scale Fees Per Session: $90-$180 per hour (negotiable depending on your annual income)

Empathy Coaching Contract

(please cut and paste this into a document, print it, sign it, and send it to Clayton Barker via a picture text message).

Signed digitally with any future changes made in writing, by Clayton Barker,

What You Get

  • As your Empathy Coach, with you as a willing, authentic partner, I will support you to:

  • Serve a world where everyone’s values are met peacefully.
  • Learn to consciously co-create a quality of connection that inspires natural giving and receiving.
  • Hone Self-Empathy and Empathy for humanity.

Note:  A Empathy Coach is not a Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counselor, or therapist. A Empathy Coach can help you clarify whether to seek out a CNVC Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counsel, further healing artists and therapy.

Our Agreement

Package: MONTH through MONTH YEAR: freely given donation /session as well as unlimited phone call and text support if I am available and willing to offer it.

Contribution: I text you a link for you to make a freely given donation for the coaching package. You can also donate in cash, check, or on pay pal by the first or any session or in a donation plan that we consciously co-create.

Scheduling: Sessions are by phone, video conferencing or in person and scheduled via text, upfront at the start of the contract and on an organic basis in coherence and alignment with our schedules.

  • You initiate the call each session. We may reschedule in writing with 24 hours notice via text messaging.
  • You may schedule session by session or for the entire 5 session package.
  • Besides emergencies, I stols welcome $ donations for sessions missed without 24 hours notice.

Between Sessions: Please be in touch as often as you’d like by phone calls or text, and I will reply as much as possible, or inform you if a given topic would be a situation where I welcome additional freely given $ donations to pay forward Empathy Coaching time. Renewal: This contract is renewable, with terms agreed upon in writing by text.

Termination: If need be, we may agree via text messaging at any time to terminate this contract at any time,  for any reason, effective if that becomes alive for us.l

Ethics: I choose to practoce the Co-Creator’s Agreements and Self Assess my Empathy Coaching based on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Self Assessment.

Confidentiality: I keep our coaching relationship confidential unless by your written permission or if you are planning on taking action to carry out suicide, homicide, sexual violence, or domestic violence. I may offer protective actions and suggestions in the community to prevent violence.

No Sexual/Romantic Relationships in Our Empathy Coaching: I am not willing to enter into any kind of Sexual/Romantic Relationship while acting professionally as your Empathy Coach. Please respect my boundaries and let me be free/celibate.

Referrals: Know anyone who could benefit from this? Send them my way!

If You Would Like to Add Further Solutions and Your Values and Requests in Our Consciously Co-Creative Agreement Contract, Please Do So and Send Me a Copy of This Contract as a Text Message Picture to Me to Read: ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

May all beings be peaceful and happy in all the worlds!

35 Day Abundance Quote Quest

Read 1 quote a day for 35 Days to Cultivate Inner and Outer Wealth In Service to Life & The Liberation and Happiness of All Beings:

1. "You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might also pray in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance?" -Khalil Gibran

2. "Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into." -Wayne Dyer

3. "It is the heart that makes a man rich. He is rich according to what he is, not according to what he has." -Henry Ward Beecher

4. "Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend... when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present - love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure - the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on Earth." -Sarah Ban Breathnach

5. "Your fortune is not something to find but to unfold." -Eric Butterworth

6. "Abundance is not a number or acquisition. It is the simple recognition of enoughness." -Alan Cohen

7. "The cause of poverty is not scarcity. It is fear and small thinking." -Alan Cohen

8. "I have the greatest of all riches: that of not desiring them." -Eleonora Duse

9. "Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life." -Wayne Dyer

10. "The measure of your life will not be in what you accumulate, but in what you give away." -Wayne Dyer

11. "Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance." -Epicurus

12. "The real source of wealth and capital in this new era is not material things... it is the human mind, the human spirit, the human imagination, and our faith in the future." -Steve Forbes

13. "The Universe will reward you for taking risks on its behalf." -Shakti Gawain

14. "I am wealth. I am abundance. I am joy." -David Cameron Gikandi

15. "The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would have never have otherwise occured... unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way." -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

16. "Always leave enough time in your life to do something that makes you happy, satisfied, even joyous. That has more of an effect on economic well-being than any other single factor." -Paul Hawken

17. "I am one with the Power that created me. I am totally open and receptive to the abundant flow of prosperity that the Universe offers. All my needs & desires are met before I even ask. I am Divinely guided and protected, and I make choices that are beneficial for me. I rejoice in other's successes, knowing there is plenty for us all." -Louise Hay

18. "When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say It takes as long as it takes you to release the RESISTANCE. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon." -Abraham Hicks

19. "He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much." -Elbert Hubbard

20. "Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." -Lao Tzu

21. "The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the would would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams." -Sidney Madwed

22. "Enthusiasm is the yeast that rises the dough." -Paul J. Meyer

23. "The heart that gives, gathers." -Marianne Moor

24. "You are, at this moment, standing right in the middle of your own acres of diamonds." -Earl Nightingale

25. "Abundance is being rich, with or without money." -Suze Orman

26. "The test of our progress is not whether we add to the abundance of those who have much. It is whether we provide enough to those who have little." -Franklin D. Roosevelt

27. "Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?" -Rumi

28. "All misfortune is but a stepping stone to fortune." -Henry David Thoreau

29. "If you want abundance in your life, give it away." -Mark Twain

30. "Those who speak most of illness, have illness; those who speak most of prosperity have it, etc" -The Secret

31. "Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving." -W. Clement Stone

32. "Every person is a golden link in the chain of my good." -Florence Scovel Shinn

33. "All that is mine by Divine Right is now released and reaches me in great avalanches of abundance, under grace in miraculous ways." -Florence Scovel Shinn

34. "Talent is always conscious of its own abundance and does not object to sharing." -Alexander Solzhenitsyn

35. "I live in the space of thankfulness - and I have been rewarded a million times for it. I started out giving thanks for small things, and the more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased. That's because what you focus on, expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life." -Oprah Winfrey

May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

Our Guiding Question...

Measurable Results

Measurable results produced by the Co-Creating Connection team in Living the 10 Questions of Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems  to serve Peace, Empathy, Nonviolence, & Restorative Dialog since 2007...

# of Indigenous Tribes We have Collaborated With Worldwide: 12

# of US States We Have Worked In: 9

# of Countries We Have Worked In: 6

# of Continents We Have Worked On: 3

# of Police Officers/Sheriff Deputies Offered Emergency Empathy: at least 20

# of Police & 911 Tele-Communicators Given Mindfulness Stress Reduction Training: 2

# of Rape/Sexual Assault Survivors Empathized with Over Their Long Term Healing Journey: Unknown. At least 5.

# of Live Restorative Circles Co-Hosted to Serve Connection & Dialog: 25+

# of Mediations Co-Hosted to Transform Conflict: at least 6

# of Jail/Prison Inmates Trained in Nonviolent Communication: at least 60+

# of Police & Military Police Offered Emergency Empathy On-Scene: at least 20+

# of Protests Offered Omni-Partial Empathy: at least 5+

# of Jail/Prison Inmates Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: at least 20+

# of Homeless US Military Veteran Camps Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 4

# of US Military Veterans Association Hospitals Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 1

# of College Public Safety Programs Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 1

# of Retired Sheriffs Trained in Restorative Systems/Circles Consciousness: 1

# of US Military Veterans Trained in Nonviolent Communication: at least 3

# of EMT Candidates, Fire People, US Air Force, & Police Academy Grads Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 18+

# of Youth Jails/Prisons Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 2

# of Adult Men's and Women's Jails/Prisons Trained in Nonviolent Communication: 5

# of Jail/Prison Staff Trained in NVC, Restorative Practices & Mindfulness Stress Reduction: at least 15+

# of Elder Care Hospitals Offered Empathy during Nursing Work: 10

# of Elders & Nursing Staff Offered Empathy in Convalescent & Charity Hospitals: 500+

# of poopy urine filled briefs changed while offering hundreds and hundreds of incontinent Elders, empathy: 1000's

# of Homeless Shelters Served With Food: 9

# of Community Food/Flower Gardens Served: at least 24

# of Compost Piles Built & Served: 100's across North America, Maui, & India

# of buckets of urine & poop hauled to make humanure compost, while offering people Empathy: estimated 364 (in 28 days)

# of People Offered a Consciously Co-Created Community Dialogic System Empathy Experience: 1000's

# of People Trained in Our Experience of Nonviolent Communication since 2007: 1000's

# of Communities Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems and Agreeing to Host Nonviolent Communication &/or Restorative Practice, &/or Mindfulness Stress Reduction Practice Groups: at least 137 (click here)

# of People Practicing Restorative Circles together: at least 100+

# Communities We Have Inspired to Agree to Co-Host Dialogic Systems/Restorative Circles Practice Groups Together: 21

  1. ReGeneration Festival, Taos, New Mexico
  2. Pachamama Alliance Volunteers in Oakland, California
  3. PRADAN in New Delhi, India
  4. Power Shift Network, Washington DC
  5. Laura's class at Taos High School, New Mexico
  6. Andrea's Freshman class #1 at Taos High School, New Mexico
  7. Andrea's Freshman class #2 at Taos High School, New Mexico
  8. Center for Nonviolent Communication & Amma people in Santa Fe, New Mexico
  9. Penasco Elementary School, Penasco, New Mexico
  10. Hummingbird Living School, Mora County, New Mexico
  11. Center for Nonviolent Communication March 2010 International Intensive Training in New Mexico
  12. The India Nonviolent Communication Convention, Pondicherry, Tamil Nadu
  13. Sadhana Forest Ecovillage, Tamil Nadu, India
  14. Devotees at Amritapuri Ashram, Kerala, India
  15. People from the Nonviolent Communication Community in New Delhi, India
  16. People at the GAMiP Nesting Peace Summit at Geneva, Switzerland
  17. Devotees at Mata Amritanandamayi Center, San Ramon, CA
  18. Staff at Berkshire Farm Center & Services for Youth, Canaan, NY
  19. Temple of Peace, Hai'ku, Maui, Hawa'ii
  20. Nonviolent Communication Family Camp, Vashon, WA
  21. McCreedy Family & Friends, San Ramon, CA

For dialog about how these measurable results are calculated, please contact us.


    Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation Arts

    Clayton Stewart Waidler Barker has been practicing the Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation Arts since 2003 to heal his own trauma and transform his own negative energy into positive energy that produces measurable results. Contact us to book a session.

    Clayton is not the doer of this healing work. Mother Earth & Beloved Divine Energy is. The Soul does not need to be healed. Mind, body, and emotions can be healed to remove blocks to returning to living in the Soul in the present moment.

    Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation sessions are held on the phone, on video conferencing, and/or in person with a non-touch boundary and serve holistic emotional, mental, physical, & energetic movement.

    Clayton's own life experience naturally prepared him to serve healing with him Self & people who face harms from:

    • rape, sexual assault, 
    • Indigenous genocide, colonialism, racism, sexism, classism, 
    • Excessive use of police/military force,
    • culture of modern materialism addiction issues, 
    • political domination injustice, 
    • homelessness, 
    • poverty of lack of compassion, 
    • poverty of food, clothing, shelter, water, 
    • competitive sports habits, 
    • fraternity culture wounding,
    • domination governance, 
    • hypocritical religious dogma, 
    • and emotional, mental, and physical violence wounding.

    Integral and Individual Healing Arts Sessions are tailored to serve the unique experience and values of the person needing healing. Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation sessions may include 1 or more of the following healing arts practices:

    • Receiving Darkness, Sending Light
    • Maitri Space Awareness Color Therapy
    • Forgiveness in 4 Breaths
    • The Barbara Brennan Chakra Clearing Method
    • Doe-Een Japanese Zen Self Shiatsu
    • Emotional Freedom Technique & Tapping
    • The Work of Byron Katie
    • Thought Rotation Self Therapy
    • Self Empathy Shaking
    • Moon Cycle Fasting
    • Inner Watershed Transformation
    • Self Acupressure
    • Integral 3-2-1 Shadow Dream Exploration
    • Sanskrit Bij Mantra Chakra Toning
    • Intuitive Sound Healing
    • Wild Release Dance
    • Love Light Meditation
    • Mindfulness Stress Reduction Techniques 
    This healing arts offering is not for sale.  Nor is this healing arts offering charged with suggested sliding scales & fees. This is meant to honor the ancient tradition of spiritual healing which means giving more than taking and consciously co-creating omni-partial access to the Universal Healing Wisdom Traditions.

    Paradoxically, this healing arts path is not one that is entirely free of practical living and costs on this temple body called Clayton and its well-being. Therefore... Freely Given Contributions Are Welcome to sustain this being a joyfully given, thriving, and sustainable offering. This healing work is also not enslaved and imprisoned in time frames.

    The healing arts schedule runs on Beloved Divine Energy's Time Frame. Healing will occur when one is willing and aligned to receive the grace of Beloved Divine Energy transforming life alienated experience into a Life Serving Experience. May you be surrounded in pure love, pure light, and pure knowledge in your healing journey.


    Please see the sample healing session contract below that we will sign before working together. Thanks.

    Self Care, Trauma Healing, and Energy Transformation Session Contract

    (please cut and paste this into a document, print it, sign it, and send it to Clayton Barker via a picture text message).

    Signed digitally with any future changes made in writing, by Clayton Barker, 

    What You Get

    As your Instrument of Peace, Indigenous European-Turtle Islander Soul, and Spiritual Light Magician, with you as a willing, authentic participant, this being will serve you to:

    1. Hone Self Care

    2. Heal Trauma 

    3. Transform Energy

    Clayton is not a Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, a licensed counselor, or certified therapist. He can help you clarify whether to seek out a CNVC Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, licensed counselor, further healing artists and certified therapy.

    Our Agreement

    Package: MONTH through MONTH YEAR: freely given donation/session as well as unlimited phone call and text support if I am available and willing to offer it.

    Contribution: we text you a link for you to make a freely given donation for the healing arts session. You can also donate in cash, check, or on pay pal by the first or any session or in a donation plan that we consciously co-create.

    Scheduling: Sessions are by phone, video conferencing or in person and scheduled via text, upfront at the start of the contract and on an organic basis in coherence and alignment with our schedules.

    • You initiate the call, video conference, or in person session. We may reschedule in writing with 24 hours notice via text messaging.
    • You may schedule session by session.
    • Besides emergencies, I still welcome $ donations for sessions missed without 24 hours notice.

Between Sessions: Please be in touch as often as you’d like by phone calls or text, and I will reply as much as possible, or inform you if a given topic would be a situation where I welcome additional freely given $ donations to donate forward healing arts time. Renewal: This contract is renewable, with terms agreed upon in writing by text.

    Termination: If need be, we may agree via text messaging at any time to terminate this contract at any time,  for any reason, effective if that becomes alive for us.l

    Ethics: I choose to practice the Co-Creator’s Agreements and Self Assess my Nonviolent Communication Practice based on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Self Assessment.

    Confidentiality: I keep our healing relationship confidential unless by your written permission or if you are planning on taking action to carry out suicide, homicide, sexual violence, or domestic violence. I may offer protective actions and suggestions in the community to prevent violence.

    No Sexual/Romantic Relationships With Clients & Clayton: 

    Unfortunately there are people who are healers, therapists, police officers, Monks, Swamis, Gurus, Presidents, Yoga Teachers, school teachers, priests, Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainers/Assessors, etc these days that exploit their positions of power and enter into sexual/romantic relationships and rapes/sexual assaults with their clients and students. Clayton is not willing to consciously or unconsciously enter into that kind of life style and Clayton is NOT willing to enter into any kind of sexual/romantic Relationship with any clients and students. Please respect and honor Clayton's boundaries, do not try to pursue a sexual/romantic relationship with Clayton, do not rape & sexually assault Clayton, and support Clayton to be Free/Celibate/Single. Thanks.

    Referrals: Know anyone who could benefit from this healing arts offering? Send them Clayton's way!

    If You Would Like to Add Further Solutions and Your Values and Requests in Our Consciously Co-Creative Healing Arts Agreement Contract, Please Do So and Send Me a Copy of This Contract With Your Proposal Agreements as a Text Message Picture to Me to Read.

    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

    From Self-Hatred to Self Compassion: Nonviolent Communication & Yoga 9-Week Tele-Class for Men who are Positive Change Agents

    This class is happening in conjunction with Kamala Maa's Mindful Path to Finding Love class for Women integrating Nonviolent Communication & Yoga. To learn about that class and support Women to participate in that magical offering, please contact - Thank you!


    - 4 Phase Process to Express Our Self Using Nonviolent Communication

    - Self-Empathy, Empathy, & Compassionate Honesty Tree of Life

    - Surrendering Muddy Shoulds into The Lotus Flower of Choice

    - Four Postures for Hearing Any Difficult Message

    - The Surprising Purpose of Anger

    - Transforming Enemy Images Healing Session

    - Mediating Internal Conflicts

    - Holistic Decision Making

    - Self Empathy Shake & Self-Empathy Trauma Clearing

    - Transforming the Downward Vortex of Submission into the Upward Spiral of Spiritual Surrender

    - Inspiring real life stories from a man who has produced extraordinary transformational results integrating Nonviolent Communication & Yoga into community peacemaking with religious organizations, schools, intentional communities, prisons, hospitals, non-profits, the US Military, and law enforcement agencies.

    NVC Yogi Host: Clayton Barker

    Pre-Class Nonviolent Hip Hop Wisdom From MC Yogi: 

    The 8 Limbs of Yoga, Be The Change, & Give Love

    Pre-Class & Post Class E-Mail: I read questions & comments at but I won't write you back. Send me your phone number if you want to talk heart to heart, voice to voice. I like that better anyways.

    Facebook: We don't have a Co-Creating Connection group page for this class. If you want to volunteer to make us one, call 1.530.713.3820 to dialog about how to get that set up.

    Sharing Chill Nonviolence Wisdom on Instagram:

    24-hr Co-Creating Connection Office Phone: 1.530.713.3820

    9 WEEK TELE-CLASS COSTS: $675 ($75 per 1.5 hour class) to $425 ($25 per 1.5 hour class) suggested sliding donation to generously sustain Clayton's basic costs to live & thrive. Donate here now. Absolutely no one turned away due to inability to donate the suggested sliding scale of money. FREE Fundraising & Abundance Coaching, Low Income Access Scholarships, and work trades available in our Holistic Economics model. Call 1.530.713.3820 to dialog to find ways to get our values met peacefully.


    +1 -(605) 313-4464


    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

    Social Media/Email Outreach Co-Creating Connection Internship


    Do you love writing crisp brief nonviolent clear community outreach emails and Facebook and Instagram posts to support Nonviolent Communication and Restorative Circles to thrive in service to the ceasing of all hostilities and everyone's values being met peacefully? Are you able to stay detached, nonviolent, non-combative, non-aggressive, and very sweet, gentle, and loving in your email connections & social media connections?

    The Co-Creating Connection team is looking for a volunteer who wants to donate about 2-4 hours per month of time to develop a Co-Creating Connection email list, Co-Creating Connection Facebook Page, and Co-Creating Connection Instagram page.

    Writing emails and posting social media posts on Facebook and Instagram is not my interest, love, forte, or joy. But I love to share the Co-Creating Connection wisdom tools to evolve systems with greater Restorative Circles, Nonviolence, Truthfulness, and Compassion. So I am looking for greater support, teamwork, and collaboration to up-level the Co-Creating Connection outreach!

    If you are interested in applying, please send a 1 sentence email reason why you want to support this and your resume and your phone # and three times when you are able to meet for a interview on the phone by September 2019 to

    We are not writing any emails to anyone at this time, so please be sure to include your phone # so we can call you back by August 2019! 


    Clayton Barker

    Co-Creating Connection with Clayton

    Please contact us to book a 30 minute Connection Session to see if it is a matching fit to work together. 

    Specific Offerings:

    From Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion: A 9-Week Tele-Class Integrating Nonviolent Communication & Yoga for Self-Care for Men who are Positive Change Agents.

    The Surprising Purpose of Anger MethodFive 1 hour session Commitment

    Self Care & Trauma Healing1 hour sessions

    Enemy Image Transformation Healing Sessions: 1 hr sessions

    We serve individuals to live their most efficient potential and realize lives of mastery, purpose, and service with the wider world. We provide individually designed one-with-one – in person and on-line –sessions to:

    • Get clear on who you came here to be and focalize your vision with life intentioned objectives
    • Cultivate coherence with your standards of integrity and Universal values
    • Cultivate deeper self-awareness, self-honesty, centeredness, and inner peace
    • Transform limiting beliefs & behavior patterns
    • Cultivate healthy patterns of thinking and action
    • Celebrate and enjoy life more fully

     In Consciously Co-Created sessions, we may draw on the following approaches and methodologies:

    • Integral Life Practice
    • Empathy for Social Change
    • Mindfulness Stress Reduction
    • Shadow Work
    • Nonviolent Communication
    • Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems
    • Restorative Practices
    • Thought Rotation Self-Therapy
    • The Surprising Purpose of Anger Method
    • Trauma Informed Care
    • Awakening The Dreamer, Changing The Dream
    • The Co-Creator's Handbook
    • The Work of Byron Katie
    • Yoga & Ayurveda
    • Kalari Payattu, Qi Gong, & Self-Shiatsu Do-Een
    We are lucky and honored with the privilege of you stopping by to check out our work!


    Clayton Barker

    Holistic Economics

    At Co-Creating Connection, we have experimented with a variety of economic models of sustainability and community financial co-responsibility since 2007. We find that Holistically Integrating a variety of approaches to work with money, which is a strategy to meet values, works the best for us to connect widely across sectors and cultures in a flexible, integral, practical, and heart centered way.

    Here are the models we integrate into our work to balance personal sustainability with community justice and inclusive welcoming:

    Volunteering: at times we volunteer and we don't solicit donations for our work

    Work-Trades: at times we do trades for services without exchanging money

    Freely Given Donations Welcome: at times, we give the work away, and welcome people to give back donations that are freely given joyful yeses.

    Financial Co-Responsibility:  at times, we welcome freely given donations and sit in circle to discuss how to share and distribute the donations. This honors that our work is given away freely, but paradoxically is not free of costs in the money-mediated economy, so we welcome support to sustain the work going on in 3 continents since 2007.

    Suggested Sliding Scale Fees With No One Turned Away Due to $ Difficulties: at times we choose to set sliding scale fees to bring security to our lives, such as food, clothing, shelter, & travel. Making it a sliding scale allows people to participate from a range of income levels. We also won't turn people away and will negotiate the fee flexibility if needed, to find a strategy that meets both our values abundantly.

    Set Fees: at times, when the need for inner security is really stretched, and we really need thriving survival and balance, we will set fees and turn down requests to work with people who cannot give financially. This happens rarely, as we've honed massive internal security muscles, working on the Freely Given Donations Welcome economy, for over a decade. But at times, to be self-honest and to stay in balance, setting fees helps up to thrive so that we can donate and volunteer in other contexts when time, energy, money, and Beloved Divine Energy's plan allows.

    If you have questions about the Holistic Economy Model, please give us a call at +1.530.713.3820