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    We have open invitations to share our learning experience of Nonviolent Communication, Restorative Circles, Restorative Practices, and Conscious Co-Creation of Community Dialog Systems in:
    • Taos, New Mexico
    • Kerala, Jaipur, New Delhi, Orissa, and Leh, Ladakh in India 
    • Lake Victoria in Kenya in Africa. 
    Please feel free to contact us if you would like to team up to be sustained by the Community Financial Co-Responsibility process and donate your time, energy, resources, air miles or plane tickets towards the Co-Creating Connection clear vision, intention, and community.

    Big Gratitude to all our Teachers who have taught and inspired so much in the gift economy and holistic integral living. 

    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!


    Our Conscious Co-Creation Community Dialogic Systems Collaborations


    Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker has had the privilege and honor of collaborating on spreading awareness and serving his experience of Indigenous rights, Conflict Transformation, Racial Justice, Class Justice, Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness Stress Reduction, Unity in Diversity, Spiral Dynamics Integral, Inclusion, Restorative Dialog, Permaculture Principles, Interfaith Harmony, Awakening The Dreamer Principles, Restorative Circles, Community Dialog Systems Conscious Co-Creation and co-learning events with...

      New Mexico (which includes 18 Indigenous Pueblos, Apache, and Dine'Tah Lands), Turtle Island-North America:
    1. ReGeneration Festival, Taos
    2. Taos County Sheriff, Taos
    3. 911 Taos Central Communications, Taos
    4. New Mexico State Police, Taos
    5. New Mexico Law Enforcement Academy, Santa Fe
    6. Taos Police Department
    7. Sustainable Global Leadership Alliance, Sandia Park
    8. Rivers and Birds, Arroyo Eco
    9. Taos Peace House, Taos
    10. Nonviolence Works Inc., Taos
    11. Taos High School, Taos
    12. Hummingbird Living School, Cleveland
    13. Mora Public Schools, Mora County
    14. Center for Nonviolent Communication, Albuquerque
    15. El Gamal: Middle Eastern Restaurant, Taos
    16. Bus The Change: A Wake Up Tour, Cleveland
    17. Children First New Mexico, Santa Fe
    18. Center for Spiritual Living, Santa Fe
    19. Calm Waters Mediation, Santa Fe
    20. Chrysalis High School, Taos
    21. PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians & Gays), Taos
    22. Lama Foundation, San Cristobal
    23. Hanuman Temple Devotees, Taos
    24. New Mexico Network for NVC, Albuquerque
    25. Taos Waldorf School, Taos
    26. Taos Juvenile Justice Board, Taos County
    27. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, San Cristobal
    28. Northern New Mexico Midwifery Center, Taos
    29. Santa Fe Recovery Center, Santa Fe
    30. The Friendship Club, Santa Fe
    31. Shree Yoga Taos, Taos
    32. Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT 2007, Albuquerque
    33. Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT 2010, Albuquerque
    34. Enos Garcia Elementary School, Taos
    35. Arroyos Del Norte Elementary School, Arroyo Seco
    36. Moreno Valley High School, Angel Fire
    37. Penasco Elementary School, Penasco
    38. Earth Garden Tea and Chi NVC Practice Group, Taos
    39. Qi Gong Academy, Taos
    40. Santa Fe Youth Development Center, Santa Fe
    41. Amma Center of New Mexico Devotees, Santa Fe
    42. Santa Fe Public Library, Santa Fe

    Bharat Mata - India
    1. Auroville Joy Living and Learning Center, Tamil Nadu
    2. Amrita University, Kollam, Kerala
    3. Thamarai Community Center, Edayanchavadi, Tamil Nadu
    4. Phyang Government School, Phyang, Ladakh, Jammu & Kashmir
    5. Living Routes Ecovillage Study Abroad, Auroville, Tamil Nadu
    6. PRADHAN, New Delhi
    7. New Delhi NVC Practice Group
    8. 2011 India NVC Convention, Pondicherri
    9. Human Harmonizer Project, Khandamal & Berhampur, Orissa
    10. Family Wellness Center, New Delhi
    11. New Delhi Restorative Circles Practice Group
    12. Solidarity for Developing Communities, Orissa
    13. American Embassy School, New Delhi
    14. Shanyer Khampa, Leh, Ladhak, Jammu & Kashmir
    15. Sādhana Forest Ecovillage, Koot Road Village, Auroville, Tamil Nadu
    16. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, Nagpur
    17. Sunil Sharma's Hindi Language School, Dharamkhot, Himachal Pradesh
    18. Amrita Self-Reliant Villages, Amritapuri, Kerala, India
    19. Amritapuri Ashram NVC & RC Practice Groups, Parayakadavu, Kerala, India

    Maui Ohana, Hawaii, South Pacific
    1. Mediation Dojo, Hai'ku
    2. Temple of Peace, Hai'ku
    3. CNVC New Future Process Conflict Transformation System, Hai'ku
    4. 2016 Center for Nonviolent Communication IIT USA-Japanese Restorative System Building Dialogs, Hai'ku and Door of Faith Rd., Hu'elo
    5. Sufi Universal Worship, Door of Faith Rd., Hu'elo

    Thailand, Asia
    1. Panya Permaculture Project, Si Khiu, Korat

    Brasil, South America
    1. Restorative Circles, Rio De Janierio
    2. Restorative Systems, Rio De Janiero
    3. Dialogic Systems Design, Rio De Ja iero
    4. Restorative Circles Apprenticeship, Rio De Janiero

    Canada, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Co-Creating Compassionate Community NVC Camp, Salt Spring, British Columbia

    California, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Karuk Tribe Cultural Biology Team, Forks of Salmon
    2. Yurok Tribe, Jack Norton School, Weitchipec
    3. US Military Veterans Association Hospital, Los Angeles
    4. US Military Women's Veterans Fair, Concord
    5. US Military Veterans North Bay Stand Down Camp, Dixon
    6. Natomas Middle School, Sacramento
    7. The Inner Path, Nevada City
    8. Golden Mandala, Nevada City
    9. Coaching for Social Change, Sacramento
    10. Living Mandala, Bay Area
    11. AmeriCorps Watershed Stewards Project, Fortuna
    12. Emergency Empathy Responders at Occupy Oakland
    13. Pachamama Alliance, San Francisco
    14. Generation Waking Up, Oakland
    15. Sunlight of the Spirit, Sacramento
    16. BayNVC Safer Communities Project, North Bay
    17. The Empathy Tent, Oakland
    18. Center for Building a Culture of Empathy, Berkley
    19. Fairfield Police, Solano County
    20. Casa De Paz, Oakland
    21. Canticle Farms, Oakland
    22. Santa Rita Prison, Alameda County
    23. MA Center, San Ramon
    24. BayNVC North American Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program, North Bay
    25. The Shift Network, North Bay
    26. Center for Sacred Studies, Forestville
    27. 2011 NVC and Diversity Retreat, Sonoma County
    28. San Quentin State Prison, Marin County
    29. Oakland City Council, Oakland
    30. Santa Rosa Violence Prevention Program, Santa Rosa
    31. Santa Rosa Gang Task Force Police, Santa Rosa
    32. Shirdi Sai Baba Hindu Temple, Fremont
    33. International Center for Cultural Studies Indigenous People's Conference & Gathering of Elders, Fremont
    34. Shadow Yoga, Santa Rosa
    35. Natomas High School, Sacramento
    36. ManKind Project New Warriors, Tiburon
    37. Sonoma County Jail, Santa Rosa
    38. Jupiter Moon Art Studio, Sebastobol
    39. Restorative Justice Training Institute, Richmond
    40. Yuba College Public Safety Program, Yuba City
    41. Yuba College Veterans Support Services, Yuba City
    42. Oakland Peace Center, Oakland, CA
    43. Madukar Baba's Ayurveda Studio, Sacramento, CA
    44. Devi Mandir, Napa, CA
    45. Shree Maa's House, Fairfield, CA
    46. Lalita Chandika Mandir, Yuba City, CA

    Pacific Northwest Turtle Island-North America
    1. NVC Family Camp, Vashon Island, WA
    2. Cascadia Workshops, Maple Falls, WA
    3. Find Flow, Nomadic, Seattle, WA & Portland, OR
    4. Bainbridge Island Restorative Circles, WA
    5. Strength of Connection, Bainbridge, WA
    6. Chuck Estin Permaculture, Bainbridge, WA
    7. Space Transform Feng Shui, Seattle, WA

    Colorado, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Shambhala Mountain Center, Red Feather Lakes
    2. Rocky Mountain Peace and Justice Center, Boulder
    3. Wild Land Restoration Alliance, Boulder
    4. University of Colorado at Boulder Environmental Center
    5. Colorado Ecospiritual Center, Colorado Springs

    Utah, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Parliament of World Religions, Salt Lake City

    Tennessee, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Memphis City School Teachers

    North East, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Berkshire Farm & Services for Youth, Canaan, NY
    2. Abode of the Message, New Lebanon, NY
    3. Lion Heart Foundation, Canaan, NY & Boston, MA
    4. Kripalu Yoga Center, Great Barrington, MA

    Washington District of Columbia, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Power Shift 2011

    Missouri, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Possibility Alliance, La Plata
    2. Superhero's Headquarters, La Plata

    Georgia, Turtle Island-North America
    1. Open Door Community, Atlanta

    Switzerland, Europe
    1. Global Alliance of Ministries and Infrastructures of Peace Summit 2013, Geneva UN

    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!







    Contact Info

    Order of Preference:


    0. In-Person Connection or send snail mail to Clayton Barker: 416 Geronimo Lane, Taos, NM 87571

    1. Currently our office cell phone is shut off. You can add Clayton on What'sApp with iamnothing108@gmail.com - Thanks!

    2. Instagram

    3. Send your snail mail address and your phone number to iamnothing108@gmail.com - we are reading emails when internet access is available. 

    Thanks,

    Mother Earth, The Soul, and Clayton



    Books

    Coming Soon... Stay attuned to the Soul Now:

    Empathy Stories is filled with great tales of living empathy from over 30 empathy experts, including one from Mr. Waidler-Barker about living empathy and connection to survive being held up at gun point on the way to volunteering at Sun Dance!



    What is Conscious Co-Creation?

    According to the Hummingbird Living School, Conscious Co-Creation is "defined in “The Co-Creator’s Handbook”, coauthored by Carolyn Anderson and Katharine Roske, as “Co-participating consciously with the laws or patterns of the Creator; conscious alignment with the essence of others and with nature; Self aligning with Self, vertically and horizontally.” A conscious co-creator is one who surrenders and aligns their will with the intention of Creation, the universal mind, the designing intelligence, Spirit; one who shares their gifts and actualizes their dreams in synergistic play with other co-creators to bring forth a new world."

    The Co-Creator’s Agreements

    Be Mindful
    My intent is to be myself, to be authentic, and to be fully present.

    Realize our Potential
    My commitment is to realize my full potential and support others in doing the same.

    Follow my Guidance
    I agree to attune with spirit and follow the calling of my soul on behalf of the well-being of the whole.

    Communicate with Integrity
    I agree to tell my truth with compassion for myself and others.

    Act with Integrity
    I agree to keep my agreements and will do my best to follow my heart in making commitments.

    Deep Listening
    I agree to listen respectfully to the communication of others and tune into their deepest meaning.

    Honor One Another
    I agree to honor each person’s process, acknowledging that everyone, including myself, is making the best possible choice or decision we are capable of in that moment.

    Appreciate Our Contributions
    I agree to take responsibility for asking for and receiving acknowledgments and for acknowledging others.

    Honor Our Differences
    I agree to come from a sense of cooperation and caring in my interactions with others, and from an understanding that objectives are often the same even though methods for achieving them may differ. I honor the diversity of all life.

    Take Responsibility
    I agree to take responsibility for my creations, my reactions, my experience and my relationships.

    Maintain Resonance
    I agree to take the time to establish rapport and then to re-connect with anyone with whom I feel out of harmony as soon as it may be in the flow.

    Resolve Problems Constructively
    I agree to take problems, complaints and upsets to the person(s) with whom I can resolve them at the earliest opportunity. I agree not to criticize or complain to someone who cannot do something about my complaint, and I will redirect others to do the same.

    Go for Excellence
    I agree to support others and to be supported in participating at the highest level of excellence.

    Learn from Experience
    I agree to do my best to learn from my experiences.

    Accept Imperfections
    I intend to em brace and accept the imperfections of myself and others.

    Be a Servant-Leader
    I agree to foster an environment of genuine collaboration in which all people, including myself, feel empowered to express our individual and collective potential.

    Service to Others
    I a m willing to open my heart, still my mind and be in compassionate service to all life.

    Re-evaluate My Commitment
    I agree to choose and re-choose to participate in Co-Creating Connection. It is my choice.

    Lighten UP!
    I agree to create joy in my relationships, my work and my life.

    These agreements are inspired by the The Co-Creator’s Handbook, published and copyrighted by Global Family. They have been adapted from The Geneva Group Agreement from Boulder, CO. We invite you to use them as a basis for co-creating agreements that are relevant for your group or organization


    Practice Groups and Learning Events That Would Be Meaningful For Us to Consciously Co-Create...

    Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation Learning Events: based on my experiences of 9 Principles, 5 Systems present in all communities, 3 kinds of support systems to build perform this work. Based on my study with teachers from 4 continents including Wyakpa Najin Win, Lyla June, Amma, Shree Maa, Roxy Manning, Kamala Itzel Damaris Berrio Hayward, Dr. Larry Emerson, Avadhuta Dattatreya, Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, Lee Mun Wah, Dominic Barter.

    Nonviolent Communication & Sound Healing Workshops: based on my experience of co-creating self-empathy and community empathy connection with world music, singing, and drumming. Have a number of friends, family members, and colleagues who are musicians who also practice Nonviolent Communication who may wish to collaborate with communities and organizations in service to local and global peace.

    Nonviolent Communication and Healing Between The Genders: Serving the Genders to fly together as the two wings of 1 bird.

    Self Empathy Medicine Circle Coaching: In-person healing session based on my experience of playing with NVC Dance Floors in my own unique way integrating prayer, mindfulness, and self-empathy dialog to hone self-compassion from within.

    Transformative Justice Consulting: how to bring mindful awareness of sexual violence trauma into building a Restorative Culture in organizations, schools, and communities integrating the 7 Principles of Self-Reliant Transformative Restorative Systems. 

    Youth Empowered Training in Nonviolent Communication 9-day Intensives: A gift economy, local food, solar oven open space learning intensive in collaboration with a intentional community, Interdependent NVC Trainers, and Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainers with people who identify as youth. 

    Enemy Image Transformation Healing Sessions: a 3 part healing process learned from Dr. Marshall Rosenberg to transform enemy images to dissolve separation consciousness and bring in the friendliness of compassionate empathy and honesty. This process is also featured in action in a book called Empathy Stories, in a story written by Mr. Waidler-Barker.

    Nonviolent Communication & Ayurveda Practice Groups: based on living and practicing NVC and Ayurveda together since 2012 to bring about balance and moderation in thought, word, and deed with holistic health and an aim for vibrant energized longevity.

    Nonviolent Communication and Permaculture Practice Groups: weaving together permaculture design principles for farming, gardening, land restoration, evolutionary economics, and inner and outer Self connection to Mother Nature and communication.

    Nonviolent Communication and Yoga Practice Groups: weaving together empathy, compassionate honesty, yoga asana, yoga therapy, and yoga philosophy to serve inner and outer peace and balance.

    Compassionate Classroom Coaching: based on our experience of facilitating team building and connection and empathy games based on the Compassionate Classroom in elementary schools, middle schools, high schools, and Universities in North America and India.


    To work with Clayton to co-create a practice group and learning event and schedule a FREE 30 Min Co-Creating Connection Session, please call +1.530.713.3820. Thanks!

    May all beings be peaceful, happy, and free in all the worlds!


    What are Restorative Practices?

    Restorative Practices are a living and organic community dialog and spiritual conversation process that aim to restore connection, power sharing, consciously co-create clarity and mutual understanding, improve and repair relationships between people and communities to both prevent harm and heal through empathy and honesty after harm has occurred. 

    The purpose of Restorative Practices are to build healthy communities, increase social capital, decrease crime and life-alienating and violent behavior, repair harm and restore broken relationships. They are considered part of the Restorative Justice Movement which builds collaborative and dialog within traditional protective and punitive use of force justice systems (such as schools, courts, police, military, mental hospitals, etc) which are held and nested within the Laws of Mother Nature justice system, the laws of karma (you get what you do), and the Universal Justice System of the Milky Way Galaxy and the Planetary Justice Systems.

    Restorative Practices are both ancient and newly emerging. 

    Examples of Restorative Practices from Native America include Dine' Hogan Dialogs, Pomo Round Dances, Port Sklallam Cedar Sweat Lodges, Pow Wows, Lakota Inipi Sweat Lodge, Homblecha, and Sun Dance Ceremonies and Talking Stick Circles where people meet to honor Mother Earth and pray for community balance, peace, harmony, healing, and beauty, and discuss harms that need prayer, love, and action. 

    There are over 760 Native American tribes in the border engulfing these Souls and the traditional Mother Earth stewardship lands they have served since time immemorial, called the United States of America. All of these tribes each have their own version of dialog and circle based Restorative Practices. 

    Examples of Restorative Practices from India are Self Help Groups, Self Reliant Groups, Kirtan, Bhajans, Satsangs, Pravarchak, Puja, Patha, Homa Yajna, Japa, Panchayats, Karma Yoga, circle dances, Sangeeta, and Seva.

    Examples of newly emerging Restorative Practices in the modern Restorative Justice Movement are... 

    Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation

    There are over 7 Billion religions on this planet and each Universal Human Being has their own unique formula to realizing the Divine in their own unique way. The practice of honing Interfaith Harmony Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation encourages you to draw your own conclusions, while continuously allowing them to be re-drawn. These 10 Evolving Questions can be lights on this path to presence with each other in our Self.

    The following descriptions are not comprehensive—but they will give you enough to start testing out how you can deepen your presence both inside and outside of Interfaith Harmony Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation. The Questions are not rules; they are inquiries learnt from direct experience. They are not answers; they are questions to be lived. They are not static; they are evolving as we evolve.

    These Questions are not new. They are as ancient as the ocean of blissful compassion in our heart light:

    -1. Are we willing to Become an Instruments of Peace?

    -0. Are we cultivating Self-Connection to Love?

    1. Are we taking Action (non-linear & linear) to serve Life?

    2. Are we consciously co-creating inner and outer Spaces for dialog?

    3. Are we hosting & Facilitating Dialog?

    4. Have we heard about dialog through the Grapevine and are we Getting the Word About Peace Dialog Out?

    5. Are we consciously co-creating omni-partial Access to dialog?

    6. Are we Celebrating our Dialog Victories?

    7. Are we Removing Blocks to Dialogic Action?

    8. Are we Repeatedly re-asking our selves these questions, non-linearly and linearly to integrate Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine within and without?



    Deeper Experiential Commentary Inquiry into these 10 Questions of Community Dialog Systems Conscious Co-Creation:

    -1. Become an Instrument of Peace: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a prayer and a willingness to become an instrument of peace?

    • What is working well in my Self?
    • What is NOT working well in my Self?
    • What is my clear vision for how I transform and embrace my Self? What is my clear vision for a strong and sustained interpersonal, intrapersonal, and systemic support system?

    0. Self Connection to Love: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create an intention to be a strong, maintained, and eternally sustained connection to one's Self and ❤️ LOVE? Are we willing to learn the principles of empathy and nonviolence from those honing these practices?

    1. Action: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create dialog with the identified sources of Mother Nature, the 5 Elements, plants, animals, birds, insects, life, water and people in the community about what works well to transform painful and violent conflict into beauty, balance, peace, harmony, compassion, and unity in diversity? Are we willing to move towards transforming rules into agreements and use Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialog Practices as a way to embrace conflict to restore peace, beauty, balance, rhythm, self discipline, harmony, & love?

    • What is working well in our community?
    • What is NOT working well in our community?
    • What is our clear vision for how our community could be?

    2. Space: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create refuges, sanctuaries, and safe spaces to perform spiritual practices and tell the truth in Restorative Dialogic Practices that have inclusive omni-partial awareness of historical contexts, gender balance, racial and ethnic honoring with respect dynamics, inclusive of all classes, respectful of all ages, mindful of all disability, a interfaith and inner faith and intrafaith agnostic, atheist, spiritual and religious outlook, and omni-partial respect of all LGTBQI2SAA, hetero-cis-normative, and celibate orientations, a minimal to zero ecological footprint, harmonious sound vibration levels, and a basic level of safety and comfort for and with the participants of the community?

    3. Host + Facilitate: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create co-learning based on a blend of knowledge honed from direct experience and intellectual information about the unity in diversity of the Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices offered in the community?

    4. Grapevine: Get The Word Out... Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a means for the experiential Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices knowledge and intellectual information to be lived and shared widely within the community?

    5. Access: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create a means for the Spiritual Practices and Restorative Dialogic Practices to be lived and initiated in the community scale that make them as omni-partial as the scale of inclusion of the community agreements and capacity of time, energy, and resources will allow?

    6. Celebrate: Are we willing to Consciously Co-Create gratitude, acknowledgment, celebrations, and appreciations of positive life-serving action to consciously co-create interdependence in the community?

    7. Remove Blocks to Action: Are we willing to build a massive and strong holistic and Spiritual interpersonal, intrapersonal, and systemic support system and seek out healing, empathy, spiritual training, recovery, and coaching to remove any blocks to us taking efficient action to manifest and generate Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation to serve local and world peace? Are we willing to to avoid the punitive use of force and only use the Protecive use of force as a last effort to enrich life, if offering food, shelter, clothing, water, empathy, understanding, and space does not transform personal and community problems and someone physically threatens us?

    8. Repeat: Non-Linearly: Is action is cyclic like weather, tides, seasons, life stages? Is action natural? Does it occur like the spiral in our thumb print, the galaxies, the water in a river Eddy, the movement of a cyclone and hurricane, and the seeds, growth, decay and re-pollination of blue corn, basmati rice, and redwoods? Is Action eternal?  Do we really do anything? Does Mother Nature happen through us and do we originate from Her and return to Her?

    ***Non-Possessiveness of Credit from Clayton Stewart Waidler Barker: All these questions came from the Universe and from inspiration sourced from the Soul of Mother Nature, Weyakpa Najin Win, Tateh Uha Omani, White Buffalo Calf Woman, Amma, Shree Maa, Avadhuta Dattatreya, Neem Karoli Baba, & Dominic Barter, in the life experiences of local and worldwide Interfaith Harmony Pilgrimage in Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems, gifted by the Mother Earth. Beloved Divine Energy Gets ALL the Credit! She is the doer!








    Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems Apprenticeship

    This offering is inspired by my own measurable results, Dialogic Systems Design, and the Restorative Circles Apprenticeship with my Indigenous Scottish Gaelic Stewart Clan Elder, Dominic Barter. It is inspired by all these Community Dialog System Co-Creation collaborations in North America, Asia, and Europe... sitting in 9 intensive learning events with Dominic, in over 25 live Restorative Circles, and participating in thousands of Restorative Dialogs and Restorative Practices.

    To be in this In-Person Apprenticeship you will need to willingly agree to consciously co-create agreements with me that work for both of us, and get both our values met peacefully, including these 7 agreements:


    0) This is a local, in-person apprenticeship and I am not able to work long distance at this time.

    1) You understand and agree I am not a Perfect Unconditional Love Giver, Expert, Yogi, Sadhu, nor a Guru and am a raggedy imperfect Universal Human Being doing the best I can to serve life.

    2) You agree that we will consciously co-create a Community Dialog System based on living these 10 Questions.

    3) You agree to read The Surprising Purpose of Anger 13 times in 1 year as I have.

    4) You agree to take your own inventory using the Systems self reflection practices.


    6) I welcome you to utilize my full experience, tap into my heart light, and test out my knowledge of Community Dialog Systems me with subtle awareness that I have survived being sexually assaulted before and I have survived having been physically beaten and physically threatened at least 20 times in my life. Because I don't work well and successfully on Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation when under too much duress, threat, pressure, and blame, I welcome you to contribute to my ease, gentleness, and empathy as I seek to equally and spiritually contribute to your ease, gentleness, and empathy.

    If this apprenticeship interests you and you are willing to agree to co-create these agreements, please contact me in person, wherever "I" am.

    Good luck out there everybody. Stay alert, stay safe, and stay awake and may you be protected with pure love, pure light, and pure knowledge.

    With harmony, blessings, respect, and peaceful wishes for 1 day on Earth where no one is admitted to the hospital due to violence,

    Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker


    May all beings be peaceful and happy in all the worlds!


    Who Am I?

     


    Short Bio: "I am Nothing. I not a leader. I am a servant. I am not the body. I am not the mind. I am a child of Mother Nature & Universal Consciousness. I am equal to compost. Please toss me in the compost heap, turn me over and aerate me until the soils of love smell sweet and then watch the community and the light inside your own heart, flower into peace, bliss, and heaven right here on Earth." -Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker

    Clayton's Life Path Autobiography of Co-Creating Connection (written from 3rd person witness consciousness): 

    Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker (a name that literally means "The Servant of The Town of Clay & Willow Who Cries Out") works locally and across North America, Asia, India, and The South Pacific as a Soulful Indigenous European-Turtle Islander (still re-tracing our ancestors footsteps) with Irish Celtic, Scottish Gaelic/Celtic, Viking, Druid, Saxon, MamlwadGermanic and Swiss Alp Tribal roots and a CEO (Community Empathy Offering) of Co-Creating Connection. He is merely a speck of dust in the Universal Cosmos who produces measurable results

    As a Self in a piece of Universal dust, Clayton has both extensive academic & community based artesanal apprenticeship training with a Bachelor's of Arts in Environmental Studies from the University of Colorado at Boulder with a Minor in Geography and is trained in Indigenous Wisdom and Indigenous Rights by The Thirteen Indigenous Grandmothers, Rhoda Concha from Taos Pueblo, Lyla June from Dine' Tah/Scadanavia/The Cheyenne and Taos ReGeneration Festival, Wyakpa Najin Win from the Five Fingered Tribe of Humanity and Dine' Tah, April Madragon from the Shoshone, Commanche, & Mextizo Tribes, Louie Hena from Tesgueh Pueblo and The Indigenous Seed Sovereignty Alliance, Dr. Larry Emerson from Hog Back in Dine' Tah, Goodshield Aguilar from The Lakota, Arvol Looking Horse from The Lakota, Walking Thunder from Dine' Tah, Thomas Denapaw Delgado from The Inuit/Lakota/Taos Pueblo, and Lynne Twist from the Pachamama Alliance.  

    Clayton has been a protector of Water, serving Watershed Education with both Indigenous and Modern communities, working on Watershed Restoration projects in Colorado, Karuk, Yurok, Karuk, Wappo, Yuba River, & Pomo country in California, Taos County, Mora County, and Santa Fe County in New Mexico, Dine' Tah in Arizona, Maui, and serving Watershed Restoration in a village Self-Reliance project working in 29 states in India. He has taught children Outdoor Watershed Education in North America and India.

    Clayton is trained in transforming his own and structural white racism into celebrating unity in diversity by all of his Indigenous Elders, Itzel Damaris Berrio Hayward of Attuned Living, Rocky Flats Nuclear Weapons Facility Whistle Blower Adrienne Anderson of the CU-Boulder Environmental Justice Program, Dr. Roxanne Manning of The Nonviolent Leadership Retreat for Social Justice, Fania Davis of Restorative Justice for Oakland Youth, Renjitam Alfred from the Restorative Justice Training Institute, Marina Smerling of the Shameless Heart, Challenge Day, The International Center for Cultural Studies, Arvol Looking Horse of the Lakota, Russell Means and Kerry Dan of the The American Indian Movement, Dr. Ward Churchill of CU-Boulder Ethnic Studies Program, Pocho Salvador Chava Eliseo Sanchez Strawbridge of the Santa Rosa Violence Prevention Partnership/MECHA/United Farm Workers, Poncho Ramos Stierle of Casa De Paz, Lee Mun Wah of Stir Fry Seminars,  Paul Kivel of How White People Can Work for Racial Justice, Dr. Mikhail Lyubansky of Psychology Today and University of Illinois, Tod Kington of Shawnee Conflict Center, and Ammachi of Embracing the World, Amrita SeRVe, and Amrita University,.

    Clayton has been practicing transforming his own anger and mental, verbal, and physical violence into Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since 2007, being first taught this language of the heart by a Choctaw-German Indigenous European-Native-Turtle Islander Medicine Woman in Chiapas, Mexico & is a graduate of the 2010/2011 BayNVC North American Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program. Clayton was personally trained by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg for 18 days and ongoingly by at least 36 Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainers from the Center for Nonviolent Communication.

    He apprentices and integrates principles of Community Dialog Systems Co-Creation with many dialog mentors around the world and also Dialogic Systems Design as well as Restorative Systems with Indigenous Scottish-Saxon-Brazilian Stewart Clan Restorative Justice & Social Systems Innovation Elder, Dominic Barter, since 2009 in Oakland, Seattle, Rochester, Atlanta, Urbana, from India on video conferencing, and in Geneva, Switzerland at the United Nations and Global Alliance of Ministries and Infrastructures of Peace. Clayton shares his experience of hosting Nonviolent Communication, Restorative Circles, Restorative Practices, and Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems Collaborations across cultures, communities, and sectors throughout the world.

    Clayton plays with inner systems, intrapersonal, and social system cohesion innovation/ancient wisdom as a Self-Assessed Interdependent Compassionate Communication Coach, a Certified & Initiated ManKind Project New Warrior, a Certified IAM 20 Meditation Instructor with Military Veterans, Youth Prisoners, and Elders by the CEO of Embracing The World, a Certified Hummingbird Community Apprentice & Ambassador, a Certified Awakening the Dreamer, Changing The Dream Facilitator by Pachamama Alliance, a Certified Nursing Assistant by North Bay CNA Training Program & The California Department of Health, Certified in Cardio-Pulmonary Resuscitation and Basic Life Support by The American Red Cross, a Certified Thriving Changemaker by Coaching for Social Change & Academy of Coaching Excellence, a graduate of Yuba College Public Safety Emergency Medical Technician Training Program, is a Certification Candidate for Emergency Medical Technician with NREMT, and looking at completing Registered Nursing college training programs by 2021. 

    He is a life long student of consciously co-creating Self connection and serves life in many roles including inner wild wisdom keeper, community conflict transformation consultant, and servant of Mother Nature. Clayton relentlessly works for inner and outer peace, justice, ecological sustainability, Interfaith Harmony, and a Enlightened local to global society of Self Realization, with all values being protected, held, and honored in dignity and respect.

    He trained in alternative evolutionary decision making and power sharing governance models such as Sociocracy with Shantigarbha and Integral Holocracy Governance with Karl Steyaert of Find Flow and the 8-Shields Governance Model with Myra Jacobs-Murphy of Sustainable Global Leadership Alliance and Concensus Decision Making with Laird Schaub from the Fellowship of Intentional Communities. He studied the Conscious Co-Creator's Agreements with Priestess Katherine Roske and Mindful Communication Agreements with Ralph Huber of the Hummingbird Living School and Spirial Dynamics Integral with Dr. Rich Ruster of the Center for the Human Dream. He studied Living in The Heart Meditation and Efficient Teamwork with Mark Courtman of Humming Bird Community.

    Clayton organically life-trains in Watershed Restoration, Transforming Environmental Racism, Traditional Indigenous Land Management, Natural Organic Farming, a Variety of Hot/Cold Composting techniques, Amrita Waste Management, Black Belt Money Skills, Permaculture, Intentional Community Building, Conscious Co-Creation, Hogan Dialog, Sacred Clowning, Spiral Dynamics Integral, Integral Life Practice & Theory, and facilitating Interfaith Earth, Fire, and Water Prayer Ceremonies. He studied Ontological Life Coaching with Coaching for Social Change and The Academy of Coaching Excellence from 2012-2016. 

    Clayton undergoes extensive inner faith and Interfaith harmony movement Spiritual training and Self study of Gaelic, Celtic, Saxon, Druid, Tuiton, Viking, Islam, Judaism, Japanese Rinzai Zen Buddhism, Japanese Soto Zen Buddhism, Vietnamese Zen Buddhism, Tibetan Vajrayana, Kagyu, & Nyigma Buddhism, Tibetan Bon, Shambhala Warrior Buddhism, Yoga, Himalayan Shaivism, Dine’ Hozho, Shakti Worship, Sanatana Dharma, Lakota Inipi, Sufi Universal Worship, Christianity, Presbyterianism, and Catholic prayer and meditation since age 0. He began performing Puja (worship) to Lord Buddha and Mother Nature at age 10 after his Mother gave him a Buddha statue and She initiated him into worship with Rinchen Gelek, a Tibetan Yogi. He has 14+ years of formal Meditation and Volunteer Service Training with many Enlightened Masters from all continents, including Native American Sages, Saints, and Holy People.

    Clayton is a singer, song writer, drummer, and a infamously authentic, bold, and avid writer, poet, as well as a published author in a book called Empathy Stories, where he shares the tale of living NVC and Yoga to thrive and survive being held up at gun point on the way to volunteering at a Lakota Sun ☀️ Dance. He is working on a new book about living NVC & Yoga to thrive and retroactively forgive being physically threatened and physically beaten 20 times in this life time. It is a book about living and recovering from violence lessons.

    To prevent sexual violence, rape, and child sexual abuse and to meet needs for community protection and personal safety, Clayton trains in the protective use of force in mixed martial arts including Chi Gung, Kung Fu, Aikido, Nor Kal Self Defense, and Kalari Payattu. Clayton has never had to physically use his martial arts training on anyone and finds the practice of these Spiritual Warrior skills, a useful way to develop self-esteem, fight his own inner enemies, and get anger out alone in a healthy way in solitude. He does not even want to think about harming anyone in thought, word and deed and spends at least 4 hours a day meditating and praying for world and inner peace.

    Clayton's life purpose is Self Realization, giving away selfless service, and serving the liberation and happiness of all beings in all the worlds. His goal is to be everyone's friend and see, remember, honor, respect, and hear the Universal Consciousness in all.

    Clayton is based in the Heart Light and currently lives in Taos in Northern New Mexico.

    A Prayer to the Indigenous Viking Goddess Frejya

    Freya, Goddess of Inner Golden Light, inspire us today. 
    Teach us to walk through our day
    with humble spiritual pride in our own being, 
    with primordial unconditional confidence, 
    with faith in the Spiritual Feminine power 
    of unconditional LOVE and selflessness. 
    Goddess of fiery dispassion, 
    bless us with the insight
    to the marrow of our bones
    that we are people of worth
    in the eyes of the Goddesses & Gods
    the eyes of the ancestors
    and of our Self. 
    May we radiate this light of Self-Worth
    and transform all we meet.
    That is out prayer for this day, oh great and powerful Goddess, 
    that we may mirror Your Divine 
    Unconditional LOVING presence throughout the day. 
    In return, we shall worship the Divine Mother always, 
    and lay flowers and fragrant insense before Your image, 
    consigning it to the sacred fires that burn
    when the day is at its longest. 
    Hail Frejya, shining Goddess of Golden Inner Light. 
    We praise You
    And worship Thy Holy Sacred Feet with Mother Earth


    May all be blessed with peace, eternal joy, liberation, pure light, pure knowledge, and pure love!


















    Self-Compassion Coaching

    Read Testimonials...


    Empathy Coaching Contract
    (please cut and paste this into a document, print it, sign it, and send it to Clayton Barker via a picture text message).

    Signed digitally with any future changes made in writing, by Clayton Barker, 
    YOUR NAME, DATE

    What You Get

    • As your Empathy Coach, with you as a willing, authentic partner, I will support you to:


    • Serve a world where everyone’s values are met peacefully.
    • Learn to consciously co-create a quality of connection that inspires natural giving and receiving.
    • Hone Self-Empathy and Empathy for humanity.


    Note:  A Empathy Coach is not a Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counselor, or therapist. A Empathy Coach can help you clarify whether to seek out a CNVC Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counsel, further healing artists and therapy.


    Our Agreement

    Package: MONTH through MONTH YEAR: freely given donation /session as well as unlimited phone call and text support if I am available and willing to offer it.


    Contribution: I text you a link for you to make a freely given donation for the coaching package. You can also donate in cash, check, or on pay pal by the first or any session or in a donation plan that we consciously co-create.


    Scheduling: Sessions are by phone, video conferencing or in person and scheduled via text, upfront at the start of the contract and on an organic basis in coherence and alignment with our schedules.


    • You initiate the call each session. We may reschedule in writing with 24 hours notice via text messaging.
    • You may schedule session by session or for the entire 5 session package.
    • Besides emergencies, I stols welcome $ donations for sessions missed without 24 hours notice.

    
Between Sessions: Please be in touch as often as you’d like by phone calls or text, and I will reply as much as possible, or inform you if a given topic would be a situation where I welcome additional freely given $ donations to pay forward Empathy Coaching time. Renewal: This contract is renewable, with terms agreed upon in writing by text.

    Termination: If need be, we may agree via text messaging at any time to terminate this contract at any time,  for any reason, effective if that becomes alive for us.l

    Ethics: I choose to practoce the Co-Creator’s Agreements and Self Assess my Empathy Coaching based on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Self Assessment.


    Confidentiality: I keep our coaching relationship confidential unless by your written permission or if you are planning on taking action to carry out suicide, homicide, sexual violence, or domestic violence. I may offer protective actions and suggestions in the community to prevent violence.

    No Sexual/Romantic Relationships in Our Empathy Coaching: I am not willing to enter into any kind of Sexual/Romantic Relationship while acting professionally as your Empathy Coach. Please respect my boundaries and let me be free/celibate.

    Referrals: Know anyone who could benefit from this? Send them my way!

    If You Would Like to Add Further Solutions and Your Values and Requests in Our Consciously Co-Creative Agreement Contract, Please Do So and Send Me a Copy of This Contract as a Text Message Picture to Me to Read: ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________


    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

    Testimonials

    "Stories shared were very helpful, particularly when used as a reference point to apply the concepts being shared. The stories on their own (especially the one about being held at gun point) also served the purpose of establishing trust and credentials for the facilitator, and were very engaging (not boring every day examples) which made the event shared with brother especially unique. They did not feel like tangents, nor did they feel like gloating. There was a felt sense that brother cared about our intentions for coming being met, and he was doing what he could to guide the process in a way that also met his own need for efficiency, as well as navigating the waters of divine mother flow from participants. Overall, so much was given in such a short period of time, and the offering was a very prayerful and authentic one. The authenticity and connection to the topic expressed by brother was the biggest motivator and connection point that would keep this one returning to this type of work with this particular facilitator. It was felt as a heart offering, and one that was creditable and trust worthy. Gratitude for the experience, and looking forward to apply and deepening NVC in life and at work. May the fruits of the offering shared bring inner and outer peace to all." -Allison Star, participant in The Yoga of Nonviolent Communication Practice Group




    Surprising Purpose of Anger Coaching


    Clayton's bio

    Testimonials


    Empathy Coaching Contract

    (please cut and paste this into a document, print it, sign it, and send it to Clayton Barker via a picture text message).

    Signed digitally with any future changes made in writing, by Clayton Barker,
    YOUR NAME, DATE

    What You Get

    • As your Empathy Coach, with you as a willing, authentic partner, I will support you to:


    • Serve a world where everyone’s values are met peacefully.
    • Learn to consciously co-create a quality of connection that inspires natural giving and receiving.
    • Hone Self-Empathy and Empathy for humanity.


    Note:  A Empathy Coach is not a Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counselor, or therapist. A Empathy Coach can help you clarify whether to seek out a CNVC Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, counsel, further healing artists and therapy.


    Our Agreement

    Package: MONTH through MONTH YEAR: freely given donation /session as well as unlimited phone call and text support if I am available and willing to offer it.


    Contribution: I text you a link for you to make a freely given donation for the coaching package. You can also donate in cash, check, or on pay pal by the first or any session or in a donation plan that we consciously co-create.


    Scheduling: Sessions are by phone, video conferencing or in person and scheduled via text, upfront at the start of the contract and on an organic basis in coherence and alignment with our schedules.


    • You initiate the call each session. We may reschedule in writing with 24 hours notice via text messaging.
    • You may schedule session by session or for the entire 5 session package.
    • Besides emergencies, I stols welcome $ donations for sessions missed without 24 hours notice.

    
Between Sessions: Please be in touch as often as you’d like by phone calls or text, and I will reply as much as possible, or inform you if a given topic would be a situation where I welcome additional freely given $ donations to pay forward Empathy Coaching time. Renewal: This contract is renewable, with terms agreed upon in writing by text.

    Termination: If need be, we may agree via text messaging at any time to terminate this contract at any time,  for any reason, effective if that becomes alive for us.l

    Ethics: I choose to practoce the Co-Creator’s Agreements and Self Assess my Empathy Coaching based on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Self Assessment.


    Confidentiality: I keep our coaching relationship confidential unless by your written permission or if you are planning on taking action to carry out suicide, homicide, sexual violence, or domestic violence. I may offer protective actions and suggestions in the community to prevent violence.

    No Sexual/Romantic Relationships in Our Empathy Coaching: I am not willing to enter into any kind of Sexual/Romantic Relationship while acting professionally as your Empathy Coach. Please respect my boundaries and let me be free/celibate.

    Referrals: Know anyone who could benefit from this? Send them my way!

    If You Would Like to Add Further Solutions and Your Values and Requests in Our Consciously Co-Creative Agreement Contract, Please Do So and Send Me a Copy of This Contract as a Text Message Picture to Me to Read: ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________


    May all beings be peaceful and happy in all the worlds!

    35 Day Abundance Quote Quest

    Read 1 quote a day for 35 Days to Cultivate Inner and Outer Wealth In Service to Life & The Liberation and Happiness of All Beings:

    1. "You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might also pray in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance?" -Khalil Gibran

    2. "Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into." -Wayne Dyer

    3. "It is the heart that makes a man rich. He is rich according to what he is, not according to what he has." -Henry Ward Beecher

    4. "Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend... when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present - love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure - the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on Earth." -Sarah Ban Breathnach

    5. "Your fortune is not something to find but to unfold." -Eric Butterworth

    6. "Abundance is not a number or acquisition. It is the simple recognition of enoughness." -Alan Cohen

    7. "The cause of poverty is not scarcity. It is fear and small thinking." -Alan Cohen

    8. "I have the greatest of all riches: that of not desiring them." -Eleonora Duse

    9. "Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life." -Wayne Dyer

    10. "The measure of your life will not be in what you accumulate, but in what you give away." -Wayne Dyer

    11. "Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance." -Epicurus

    12. "The real source of wealth and capital in this new era is not material things... it is the human mind, the human spirit, the human imagination, and our faith in the future." -Steve Forbes

    13. "The Universe will reward you for taking risks on its behalf." -Shakti Gawain

    14. "I am wealth. I am abundance. I am joy." -David Cameron Gikandi

    15. "The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would have never have otherwise occured... unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way." -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

    16. "Always leave enough time in your life to do something that makes you happy, satisfied, even joyous. That has more of an effect on economic well-being than any other single factor." -Paul Hawken

    17. "I am one with the Power that created me. I am totally open and receptive to the abundant flow of prosperity that the Universe offers. All my needs & desires are met before I even ask. I am Divinely guided and protected, and I make choices that are beneficial for me. I rejoice in other's successes, knowing there is plenty for us all." -Louise Hay

    18. "When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say It takes as long as it takes you to release the RESISTANCE. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon." -Abraham Hicks

    19. "He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much." -Elbert Hubbard

    20. "Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." -Lao Tzu

    21. "The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the would would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams." -Sidney Madwed

    22. "Enthusiasm is the yeast that rises the dough." -Paul J. Meyer

    23. "The heart that gives, gathers." -Marianne Moor

    24. "You are, at this moment, standing right in the middle of your own acres of diamonds." -Earl Nightingale

    25. "Abundance is being rich, with or without money." -Suze Orman

    26. "The test of our progress is not whether we add to the abundance of those who have much. It is whether we provide enough to those who have little." -Franklin D. Roosevelt

    27. "Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?" -Rumi

    28. "All misfortune is but a stepping stone to fortune." -Henry David Thoreau

    29. "If you want abundance in your life, give it away." -Mark Twain

    30. "Those who speak most of illness, have illness; those who speak most of prosperity have it, etc" -The Secret

    31. "Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving." -W. Clement Stone

    32. "Every person is a golden link in the chain of my good." -Florence Scovel Shinn

    33. "All that is mine by Divine Right is now released and reaches me in great avalanches of abundance, under grace in miraculous ways." -Florence Scovel Shinn

    34. "Talent is always conscious of its own abundance and does not object to sharing." -Alexander Solzhenitsyn

    35. "I live in the space of thankfulness - and I have been rewarded a million times for it. I started out giving thanks for small things, and the more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased. That's because what you focus on, expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life." -Oprah Winfrey

    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

    Our Guiding Question...

    Inner Watershed Transformation

    “Don’t miss the opportunities you come across to perform unselfish actions. You will then gradually gain mental purity and devotion. As you proceed with diligence, you will attain more clarity of mind and a deeper understanding. This will finally lead you to the state of perfection, the state of Self-realization.” ~Amma



    Measurable Results

    Measurable results produced by the Co-Creating Connection team in Living the 10 Questions of Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems  to serve Peace, Empathy, Nonviolence, & Restorative Dialog since 2007...

    # of Indigenous Tribes We have Collaborated With Worldwide: 12

    # of US States We Have Worked In: 9

    # of Countries We Have Worked In: 6

    # of Continents We Have Worked On: 3

    # of Police Officers/Sheriff Deputies Offered Emergency Empathy: at least 20

    # of Police & 911 Tele-Communicators Given Mindfulness Stress Reduction Training: 2

    # of Arrests Prevented: at least 26

    # of Domestic Violence Acts Prevented: at least 3

    # of Rape/Sexual Assault Survivors Empathized with Over Their Long Term Healing Journey: Unknown. At least 5.

    # of Fist Fights/Martial Arts Battles Prevented: at least 10

    # of Terrorist Bombings Prevented: at least 3

    # of Religious Wars Prevented: at least 3

    # of Deadly Weapons Not Used to Handle Conflict: at least 2

    # of Guns Not Purchased to Handle Conflict: at least 3

    # of Homicides Prevented: at least 13

    # of Suicides Prevented: at least 3

    # of Death Threats/Physical Punishment Threats Survived: at least 7

    # of Beatings Survived With Turning The Other Cheek: 3

    # of Houses/Meditation Centers Not Burnt Down: at least 3

    # of Meditation Centers Whose Windows Were Not Broken: at least 2

    # of Survivals Being Held up at Gun Point: at least 2

    # of Live Restorative Circles Co-Hosted to Serve Connection & Dialog: 25+

    # of Mediations Co-Hosted to Transform Conflict: at least 6

    # of Jail/Prison Inmates Trained in Nonviolent Communication: at least 60+

    # of Police & Military Police Offered Emergency Empathy On-Scene: at least 20+

    # of Protests Offered Omni-Partial Empathy: at least 5+

    # of Jail/Prison Inmates Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: at least 20+

    # of Homeless US Military Veteran Camps Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 4

    # of US Military Veterans Association Hospitals Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 1

    # of College Public Safety Programs Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 1

    # of Retired Sheriffs Trained in Restorative Systems/Circles Consciousness: 1

    # of US Military Veterans Trained in Nonviolent Communication: at least 3

    # of EMT Candidates, Fire People, US Air Force, & Police Academy Grads Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 18+

    # of Youth Jails/Prisons Trained in Mindfulness Stress Reduction: 2

    # of Adult Men's and Women's Jails/Prisons Trained in Nonviolent Communication: 5

    # of Jail/Prison Staff Trained in NVC, Restorative Practices & Mindfulness Stress Reduction: at least 15+

    # of Elder Care Hospitals Offered Empathy during Nursing Assistance Work: 9

    # of Elders & Nursing Staff Offered Empathy in Convalescent & Charity Hospitals: 500+

    # of Homeless Shelters Served With Food: 9

    # of Community Food/Flower Gardens Served: at least 24

    # of Compost Piles Built & Served: 100's across North America, Maui, & India

    # of People Offered a Consciously Co-Created Community Dialogic System Empathy Experience: 1000's

    # of People Trained in Our Experience of Nonviolent Communication since 2007: 1000's

    # of Communities Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems and Agreeing to Host Nonviolent Communication &/or Restorative Practice, &/or Mindfulness Stress Reduction Practice Groups: at least 137 (click here)

    # of People Practicing Restorative Circles together: at least 100+

    # Communities We Have Inspired to Agree to Co-Host Dialogic Systems/Restorative Circles Practice Groups Together: 20

    1. ReGeneration Festival, Taos, New Mexico
    2. Power Shift Network, Washington DC
    3. Laura's class at Taos High School, New Mexico
    4. Andrea's Freshman class #1 at Taos High School, New Mexico
    5. Andrea's Freshman class #2 at Taos High School, New Mexico
    6. Center for Nonviolent Communication & Amma people in Santa Fe, New Mexico
    7. Penasco Elementary School, Penasco, New Mexico
    8. Hummingbird Living School, Mora County, New Mexico
    9. Center for Nonviolent Communication March 2010 International Intensive Training in New Mexico
    10. The India Nonviolent Communication Convention, Pondicherry, Tamil Nadu
    11. Sadhana Forest Ecovillage, Tamil Nadu, India
    12. Pachamama Alliance People in Oakland, California
    13. Devotees at Amritapuri Ashram, Kerala, India
    14. People from the Nonviolent Communication Community in New Delhi, India
    15. People at the GAMiP Nesting Peace Summit at Geneva, Switzerland
    16. Devotees at Mata Amritanandamayi Center, San Ramon, CA
    17. Staff at Berkshire Farm Center & Services for Youth, Canaan, NY
    18. Temple of Peace, Hai'ku, Maui, Hawa'ii
    19. Nonviolent Communication Family Camp, Vashon, WA
    20. McCreedy Family & Friends, San Ramon, CA

    For dialog about how these measurable results are calculated, please contact Clayton

    Thanks.

    May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!













      Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation Arts

      Clayton Stewart Waidler Barker has been practicing the Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation Arts since 2003 to heal his own trauma and transform his own negative energy into positive energy that produces measurable results.

      Clayton is not the doer of this healing work. Mother Earth & Beloved Divine Energy is. The Soul does not need to be healed. Mind, body, and emotions can be healed to remove blocks to returning to living in the Soul in the present moment.

      Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation sessions are held on the phone, on video conferencing, and/or in person with a non-touch boundary and serve holistic emotional, mental, physical, & energetic movement.

      Clayton's own life experience & very slow process of becoming a Instrument of Peace, Indigenous European-Turtle Island Medicine Soul, and Spiritual Light Magician, naturally prepared him to serve healing with people who face harms from:

      • rape, sexual assault, 
      • Indigenous genocide, colonialism, racism, sexism, classism, 
      • Excessive use of police/military force,
      • culture of modern materialism addiction issues, 
      • political domination injustice, 
      • homelessness, 
      • poverty of lack of compassion, 
      • poverty of food, clothing, shelter, water, 
      • competitive sports habits, 
      • fraternity culture wounding,
      • patriarchical/matriarchal domination governance, 
      • hypocritical religious dogma, 
      • and emotional, mental, and physical violence wounding.

      Integral and Individual Healing Arts Sessions are tailored to serve the unique experience and values of the person needing healing. Self Care, Trauma Healing, & Energy Transformation sessions may include 1 or more of the following healing arts practices:

      • Receiving Darkness, Sending Light
      • Maitri Space Awareness Color Therapy
      • Forgiveness in 4 Breaths
      • The Barbara Brennan Chakra Clearing Method
      • Doe-Een Japanese Zen Self Shiatsu
      • Emotional Freedom Technique & Tapping
      • The Work of Byron Katie
      • Thought Rotation Self Therapy
      • Shambhala Atlantean Intuitive Reiki
      • Self Empathy Shaking
      • Moon Cycle Fasting
      • Inner Watershed Transformation
      • Self Acupressure
      • Integral 3-2-1 Shadow Dream Exploration
      • Sanskrit Bij Mantra Chakra Toning
      • Intuitive Sound Healing
      • Wild Release Dance
      • Love Light Meditation
      • Mindfulness Stress Reduction Techniques 
      • Nonviolent Communication
      • Restorative Practices & Circles
      • Consciously Co-Creating Community Dialog Systems
      This healing arts offering is not for sale.  Nor is this healing arts offering charged with suggested sliding scales & fees. This is meant to honor the ancient tradition of spiritual healing which means giving more than taking and consciously co-creating omni-partial access to the Universal Healing Wisdom Traditions.

      Paradoxically, this healing arts path is not one that is entirely free of practical living and costs on this temple body called Clayton and its well-being. Therefore... Freely Given Contributions Are Welcome to sustain this being a joyfully given, thriving, and sustainable offering. This healing work is also not enslaved and imprisoned in time frames.

      The healing arts schedule runs on Beloved Divine Energy's Time Frame. Healing will occur when one is willing and aligned to receive the grace of Beloved Divine Energy transforming life alienated experience into a Life Serving Experience. May you be surrounded in pure love, pure light, and pure knowledge in your healing journey.

      Testimonials

      You can book healing sessions with Clayton on What'sApp at 1.530.713.3820 and in person at 416 Geronimo Lane, Taos, NM 87571. Please see the sample healing session contract below that we will sign before working together. Thanks.


      Self Care, Trauma Healing, and Energy Transformation Session Contract

      (please cut and paste this into a document, print it, sign it, and send it to Clayton Barker via a picture text message).


      Signed digitally with any future changes made in writing, by Clayton Barker, 
      YOUR NAME, DATE

      What You Get

      As your Instrument of Peace, Indigenous European-Turtle Islander Soul, and Spiritual Light Magician, with you as a willing, authentic participant, this being will serve you to:

      1. Hone Self Care

      2. Heal Trauma 

      3. Transform Energy


      ***Clayton plays the role of a Instrument of Peace Healer

      Clayton is not a Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, a licensed counselor, or certified therapist. He can help you clarify whether to seek out a CNVC Certified Trainer, Guru, Saint, licensed counselor, further healing artists and certified therapy.


      Our Agreement

      Package: MONTH through MONTH YEAR: freely given donation/session as well as unlimited phone call and text support if I am available and willing to offer it.


      Contribution: we text you a link for you to make a freely given donation for the healing arts session. You can also donate in cash, check, or on pay pal by the first or any session or in a donation plan that we consciously co-create.


      Scheduling: Sessions are by phone, video conferencing or in person and scheduled via text, upfront at the start of the contract and on an organic basis in coherence and alignment with our schedules.


      • You initiate the call, video conference, or in person session. We may reschedule in writing with 24 hours notice via text messaging.
      • You may schedule session by session.
      • Besides emergencies, I still welcome $ donations for sessions missed without 24 hours notice.

      
Between Sessions: Please be in touch as often as you’d like by phone calls or text, and I will reply as much as possible, or inform you if a given topic would be a situation where I welcome additional freely given $ donations to donate forward healing arts time. Renewal: This contract is renewable, with terms agreed upon in writing by text.

      Termination: If need be, we may agree via text messaging at any time to terminate this contract at any time,  for any reason, effective if that becomes alive for us.l

      Ethics: I choose to practice the Co-Creator’s Agreements and Self Assess my Nonviolent Communication Practice based on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Self Assessment.


      Confidentiality: I keep our healing relationship confidential unless by your written permission or if you are planning on taking action to carry out suicide, homicide, sexual violence, or domestic violence. I may offer protective actions and suggestions in the community to prevent violence.

      No Sexual/Romantic Relationships With Clients & Clayton: 

      Unfortunately there are people who are healers, therapists, police officers, Monks, Swamis, Gurus, Presidents, Yoga Teachers, school teachers, priests, Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainers/Assessors, etc these days that exploit their positions of power and enter into sexual/romantic relationships and rapes/sexual assaults with their clients and students. Clayton is not willing to consciously or unconsciously enter into that kind of life style and Clayton is NOT willing to enter into any kind of sexual/romantic Relationship with any clients and students. Please respect and honor Clayton's boundaries, do not try to pursue a sexual/romantic relationship with Clayton, do not rape & sexually assault Clayton, and support Clayton to be Free/Celibate/Single. Thanks.

      Referrals: Know anyone who could benefit from this healing arts offering? Send them Clayton's way!

      If You Would Like to Add Further Solutions and Your Values and Requests in Our Consciously Co-Creative Healing Arts Agreement Contract, Please Do So and Send Me a Copy of This Contract With Your Proposal Agreements as a Text Message Picture to Me to Read.


      May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!




      I am NOT for Sale!

      ALL our offerings on Co-Creating Connection are offered without people being charged set money fees and suggested money sliding scale fees. 

      This keeps the work here from being co-opted by my own violent money ego, and maintains this work as a community financial co-responsibility process where we practice giving more than taking from each other. 

      This also makes the Co-Creating Connection work a stand for transforming sexism into equal pay for Indigenous Women as well as a interfaith stand for ending human trafficking and sex slavery.

      Not charging set fees nor suggesting sliding scale fees makes our work omni-partially available to all income levels without money and my own capitalism ego, being a block to anyone freely accessing the community wisdom tools of the Co-Creating Connection arts.

      Paradoxically, this work is not entirely free of practical costs of living so Freely Given Contributions are still welcomed to strengthen and sustain our work on three continents since 2007. Please don't donate out of guilt. Please only donate if it is a nonviolent joyful YES in your heart to do so.

      Thanks,

      Clayton Stewart Waidler-Barker

      May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy in all the worlds!

      Enemy Image Transformations

      Tired of seeing someone as your enemy and draining yourself with the hot coals of your own anger?

      3-Phase Healing Sessions to Transform Enemy Images into Friendly Images learnt from direct experience with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg who founded The Center for Nonviolent Communication.

      Contact us to schedule a 60 minute session in person, on phone, or by video conference.

      No set fees. Freely given contributions welcome.

      Thanks,

      Mother Earth, The Soul, and Clayton


      May all beings be peaceful, free, and happy!